Mallory Ross – A Tribute. 


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  1. Mallory's Dad says:

    Good Morning,

    In life Mallory was so giving; on this we all can agree. In death Mallory continues to give.
    It was her wish to allow the donation of her soft tissue(s) and bone; (benefiting 50 to 100 people), cornea(s) (benefitting 2 people – giving the gift of sight – one cornea to a resident of Cleveland, OH; already) so many people with medical needs from ACL, Achilles tendon to spinal bone graft will benefit because of Mallory.

    The geography, her being 3,000 miles from her resting place and her heroism of being a donor has generated a pile of paperwork to deal with…delays for all reasons…

    Services for Mallory have been scheduled for Sunday, September 1, 2013 at 2:00pm (PST)
    Mt. Sinai, Hollywood Hills, (Tanach Chapel) 5950 Forest Lawn Drive, Los Angeles, CA 90068

    If for some reason her body has not arrived in time for the service we will still continue on schedule because we know her soul and spirit surrounds us all.

    This is going to be a Celebration of Mallory’s Life – Mallory brought a lot of joy into all of our lives and we wish to encourage you to feel comfortable in sharing a story, an experience or a moment in time that you shared with our daughter and Meredith’s sister.

    DRIVING DIRECTIONS Forest Lawn Drive Exit / {134}
    Google Map Link:,+Los+Angeles,+CA+90068&aq=&sll=34.020479,-118.411732&sspn=0.932199,1.783905&vpsrc=6&t=h&ie=UTF8&hq=&hnear=5950+Forest+Lawn+Dr,+Los+Angeles,+California+90068&ll=34.152301,-118.314106&spn=0.014543,0.027874&z=16&iwloc=A

  2. Mallory's Dad says:

    I have been asked several times if the Memorial Service was recorded. Initially, I was not comfortable posting this information… if you are interested please do not hesitate to ask me for the password via email.

    Mallory Anne Memorial Webcast Logon Information

    You can access the Memorial Services webcast from Just go to the obituary listing and open Mallory’s obituary page. Under Photos and Videos, you will see the portal to the webcast. It will ask you for the password which is: send an email request for the password to

  3. Mallory's Dad says:

    Thank you for your kind words. To Nora and I, it means a lot. Your kind words comfort us. This has changed Nora and I, forever. We have no specific needs at this moment.

    Our children are a gift that never stops giving… this morning we have our memories to rely upon. We are going to miss her voice, her sense of humor, her care and concern for everyone she has ever met, her outlook on life and the way she lit up every room she ever entered.

    Long ago, me the IT guy, her dad bought Mallory had plans for the site. Her plans for the site have changed… Mine too… Soon you will be able to post your comments, memories and pictures to

    Again, thank you for your kind words… and thank you for your postings to the MalloryRoss Memorial Web Page.

    1. Mallory's Dad says:

      We should be close, very close to setting the date for the funeral – scratch that – Celebration of Life. Check back here for the details soon. Thank you for your patience…

      1. Mallory's Dad says:

        Peek at the Picture Wall

        1. Linda Snyder says:

          Nora and Jay,
          Although I have never met you, I want to express to you the love I had for Mallory.

          Mallory was such a kind, considerate and terrific person. I enjoyed spending time with her when she and Alan would come to Baltimore for holiday’s, birthday parties, and, also, that she came to Wildwood only a couple of weeks ago to share in on our “Snyder” vacation.

          Mallory was so good for Alan, and I was so looking forward to them becoming a family one day, as well as having a family of their own.

          You both should be so proud of her and yourselves for raising such a wonderful respectful daughter.

          Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you or your family.

          Linda Snyder
          (Alan’s mom)

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  4. Rick Edelman says:

    Chris and I send our deepest sympathies. While we did not know Mallory as well as we would have liked, we knew how special a person she was.

    If there is anything we can do, please let us know.

  5. Sid and Bea says:

    Love for a child is forever and without limit or measure. Through her friends, deeds and our collective memories she will be with us always.
    With much love and caring,
    Sid and Bea

  6. Jack & Li says:

    Nora and Jay… Li & I are so heart broken for your loss. I know no words can help in what you are going thru right now, but If there is anything Li and I can do… just know we are here for you. I know Mallory is now with God and our are thoughts and prayers will be with you now and the in upcoming weeks.

    Jack & Li

  7. David Levich gasparian says:

    My deepest of sympathies your family and those close. I’ve never met some of you, but I am too distraught by this news. I have no words wish you the best during this unthinkably difficult period . Mallory was amazing and this world lost an incredible person.

  8. Shefali says:

    I knew Mallory through the sorority she was in. When I saw her last year at a sorority sister’s wedding we had so much fun together. I will miss her a lot and am so incredibly saddened by the news. Condolences to Alan and her family.

  9. Matt says:

    Nora and Jay,

    I’m not really sure how to start to say how heartbroken I feel for you both. I only knew Mallory for a short time while I was in New York, but she made a harsh time much easier. We would sit on my tiny porch and talk for hours. I’ll miss her wisdom and contagious laugh and the endless amount of hookah and beer we shared.

  10. Steve Foster says:

    Nora and Jay – I do not know how to say how sorry for the
    loss of Mallory. This is something that should never happen to a family. I am so sad.

    Steven Foster

  11. Monica Crooms says:

    Nora and Jay,

    I haven’t seen Mallory for some years but I can remember her laugh as if I heard it yesterday. This news absolutely broke my heart. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. Tonight I imagine Mallory as radiant an angel as she was a person. You are in my thoughts and prayers.


  12. Brandon Gelfand says:

    Words can not describe what I am feeling. Mallory had such a bubbly and happy personality. I will always remember her beautiful brown eyes and am happy to know that they will live on with someone else just as she does in all of her hearts. You will be forever missed Mallory. With lots of love – Brandon

  13. Christina LeRubio says:

    My husband, Branden, and I are extremely sadden about Mallory’s passing and are very sorry for your loss. We knew her from UCR and I am one of her sorority sisters. We will miss Mallory dearly.

    Mallory was an amazing person: strong, independent, intelligent, bright, driven and outgoing. Those are only a few of the characteristics that made her such a dynamic woman and outstanding person. She truly encompassed everything Alpha Chi Omega represents: Real. Strong. Women.

    Our thoughts and sympathies are with your family and Alan during this difficult time and we hope the wonderful memories you shared with her will bring you comfort.

    Our warmest condolences,
    Branden and Christina Rubio

  14. Olivia says:

    To Mallory’s family: i am sorry for your loss. I met Mallory at UCDC in 2006. I liked her a lot. She was very outgoing and welcoming. :) The last interaction we had was just a couple of weeks ago on Facebook – a quick greeting…
    – Olivia

  15. Allison Oberhand and Rodney Moreh says:

    We’re going to miss you forever. Thanks for making such a positive change in our lives and being the golden standard. You were the best.

    Always yours,
    Allison and Rodney

  16. Lauren Frieband says:

    This is devastating news, as Mallory was so vibrant and strong, and she shared that with so many. My thoughts are with the community of everyone who has been so lucky to know her. I will cherish my memories with her as I alway have. Please keep us updated on how we can support.

  17. Anon says:

    A smile – is a sign of joy.

    A hug – is a sign of love.

    A laugh – is a sign of happiness.

    And a friend like Mallory??

    Well…that’s just a sign of good taste!!

  18. Jenn Roberts says:

    I am utterly shocked and saddened to hear this extremely tragic news. I was lucky enough to be Mallory’s sorority sister and also be her roommate for 3 years in college at UCR. She was such an amazing human being and I always looked up to her. She was such a confident, strong, beautiful person. She will be missed.

  19. There are no words to express the loss that our family suffered today. This morning, our niece Mallory, a bright, beautiful, accomplished, loving, caring, vibrant young woman was taken from us. Mallory will forever live in our hearts and memory. We are so proud of the person she was and blessed to be her aunt and uncle.

    Nora, Jay and Meredith – Nothing can be said or done that will assuage your burden for this untimely loss. We can only hope with time that you can find comfort in your memories of your amazing daughter/sister.

    With all our love and sympathy,

    Audrey and Ken

  20. Hayley Currier says:

    Submitted on 2013/08/27 at 12:18 am

    I idolized Mallory as a kid…she was always as loving to me as she was to Erica. Ross family: thank you for always welcoming me into your home as Erica’s sidekick so that I got to have Mallory in my life. She took on the responsibility of role model with grace. I am so so sorry for your loss.

  21. JoAnn Stephens says:

    My deepest condolences to Mallory’s family. I have only known Mallory a short time. I am a friend of Alan’s and we all played dodgeball together. I remember fondly meeting her and her team at a bar after some games one night; there was a fun, frenemy rivalry between us all and we all made jokes at each other’s expense over a few beers. We enjoyed each other’s company and eventually joined to play together a few times. We always had such a great time, even winning a championship together.

    I feel like I was just really getting to know her as our circles of friends intersected at different get-togethers. All I really know is that Mallory was always a lot of fun, had a beautiful smile and she made my friend Alan happy. He got his spark back that I hadn’t seen in him in a while, and I know it was because of her and the love they had for each other. My heart aches for Mallory’s family and Alan.

    Mallory’s presence will be missed, but the fun memories with her will never be forgotten.

  22. Guy Arbel says:

    I’ve met Mal on January 2008 on a Birthright tour to Israel, I was an Israeli soldier back then and Mal to travel. We were really good friends and we had a lot in common. A year and a half later, after I got off the army, sweet Mal came back to Israel to hang out with me, my family and friends for 10 days after traveling Greece with her friends. Sadly we lost contact, about 3 years ago.. I’m shocked to hear these news. Alan, I’m sorry for your lost and the lost of Ross family, I feel deeply sad now and I really don’t know what to say..
    I wanted to ask, if it is ok, what happen to her..?

    Guy Arbel

  23. Alex says:

    Our deepest condolences to Mallory’s family and friends. I had the privilege and a pleasure knowing Mallory. I met her during orientation at NYLS, and after seeing her almost ever day for three years, I can honestly say she was one of the nicest people I had the pleasure of meeting. She wil be greatly missed.

  24. Shana says:

    I met Mallory as a 1L at NYLS. She has and will remain in my memory as a smart, gorgeous lady with an amazing smile and taste for adventure. I’m deeply sorry to say that I haven’t reached out in ages. She inspired me with her running photos and 30-day bikram challenge.

    My thoughts are with her family and friends. I am terribly sorry for this tragic loss.

  25. Josh Blye says:

    I traveled to Israel with Mallory in 2008. She made me feel welcome among a large group of strangers, many of whom I had absolutely nothing in common. I think she did this for everyone on our trip. She was so vibrant, lively, loving and strong. She made every day of that trip fun, exciting and most importantly, memorable. We lost contact over the years as our lives brought us new adventures, but I will always cherish her presence in my life.

  26. Sabrina says:

    I woke up to this shocking news and just feel speechless. I will always remember the countless weekends spent at your home just having fun, making up silly convention dances, picking out silly outfits and accessories for the next big event, and of course watching “Coyote Ugly” and listening to the sound track countless times.

    I recently spoke to her on FB and we had the chance to catch up a bit. She seemed really happy in her life and was telling me how Alan was going home to meet the family (guess that was almost a year ago now). She will always be remembered and definitely missed. Your family will be in my thoughts.

    Sabrina Passanante (Bohr)

  27. Rob & Jelena Vonarb says:

    My dear friend, wife and daughter have lost a part of their very existence…but they will be strong and nurture each other, as this is what they must do now for each other and Mallory expects that of them. Mallory’s time came too soon, but she is safe now and it is only because god wants the very best people that he took her now. She will now watch over all of us…and for this, we should all be thankful and celebrate her life.

  28. Tiffany Exline says:

    To my little sis-

    I prayed to my mother last night to keep you protected and safe in God’s hands. She loved you like I do, and I know she will watch over you.

    I am angry God took you from us too soon. You had so much more to give to this world. What a beautiful and special woman you were to everyone you touched.

    I love you so very much.

    Love your,
    Your Big

  29. Gena Miller Divine says:

    I grew up with Mallory at Camp JCA Shalom – she was always one of the most enjoyable people to be around. Smiling, laughing, and genuinely kind. The summer of 2000 we were supposed to travel to Israel together with our camp, and I recall being so sad not to be able to share those amazing experiences with her.

    Through the years, we’ve kept in touch via Facebook and unfortunately never were in the same place at the same time to catch up again. Such a wonderful, charismatic, truly fantastic girl – she will be so missed.

  30. Anon says:

    Two hats were hanging on a hat rack in the hallway. One hat said to the other: “You stay here, I’ll go on a head.”

  31. Mallory's Dad says:


    Thank you, I am so, so proud of YOU for touching so many people’s lives…

    “Love is that condition where someone else’s happiness is necessary to your own.”
    — Robert Anson Heinlein

    You will occupy a very special place in my heart for all eternity.

  32. Jenny Abrams says:

    Mallory was loved by sooo many and truly had an amazing spirit. When thinking back on bbyo days my mind focuses on her smile that lit up the room and her incredible, comforting hugs and embrace. We were always so excited to see each other. She was such a special person to many and she will be incredibly missed.

  33. Waiman Cheung says:

    It was with great sadness that I learnt about the death of Mallory, I cannot begin to understand the shock and disbelief that you must be feeling. It is the hardest thing a parent can go throught. Please accept my sympathy for your sad loss. I once heard this from a movies: “They say we die twice. Once when the breath leaves our body, and once when the last person we know says our name.” Lets keep her memory until our last breath leaves our body.

  34. Bob Worth says:

    I was very shocked and saddened to hear about your daughter Mallory. It is obviously tragic news for your entire family. Words do not adequately express inner feelings for such a loss. I have tremendous sympathy for the emotional trauma you are experiencing. Your memories and time itself will help you even though you may not believe that now. Your family will be in my thoughts…you have my deepest condolences. Bob Worth

  35. Erin says:

    I had a horrible night the night Mallory passed. I didn’t know she was gone (nor did anyone), nor what was going on, but around 12:30 I was woken with tpanic symptoms. . .I could not fall alseep and laid there restless. . .I thought of my time in New York for some reason. . .random events and remembered how my cousin had moved there just as I was about to move back to California. . .I thoughtabout death and what it is like to die, and how horrible it would be to die without having found love. In the morning, a friend and co-worker came to my house asking if I could go to town with him to do something work related. I told him no, that I hadn’t slept well and that something didn’t feel right. Then I received the news from my mom at around 10 AM Dominican time. And the world has seemed to be with less light. . .it is difficult to receive such heavy news being far away. I don’t have many photos with me of Mallory, but on my iPod, I spent last night looking at Thanksgiving 2010 photos and my visit to her in New York in 2011 before I started the Peace Corps. That was the last time I have seen here (before I headed off to the Dominican Republic) She had just joined a Dodgeball League in the city and I had the pleasure to see her first game. We went out later that night with some of her teammates and hung out as cousins and friends, something we don’t always have the opportunity to do living in different parts of the country/world. I really cherish that visit with her. It was the last time I’ve had the opportunity to see my cousin in these past 2 years as I’ve been in the Peace Corps in the Dominican Republic. I never ever thought in my life it would be my absolute last time. Approaching the close of my service, I have been excited at the upcoming opportunity to reconnect with family and friends. No one would have ever thought she would pass away so young. My heart is broken as she suddenly passed away yesterday. She was 29, a law student graduate, a beautiful intelligent person who for me was a source of inspiration and someone I dearly admired. During my time here, she has supported me with her words of wisdom, helping me find light in the tough times I’ve had here. I love you Mallory and will miss you dearly. I send my love to my family, my Aunt Nora, Uncle Jay, and Cousin Meredith who lost their beautiful daughter and sister. . .to my parents who lost their beautiful niece. There’s no easy way, but the world is beautiful and it was more beautiful with Mallory in it. My thoughts are with her family and friends.

  36. Julie (Pollack) Allison says:

    I don’t even know where to begin. Mallory has occupied a huge piece of my heart, and helped define who I am for so long, losing her I have lost a piece of me too. Over half my life, she has been a sister, a confidant, a partner, a supporter, and one of the most valued friends I could have ever known. I have countless memories with her, too many to share in just one post. There were so many memories we shared, and secrets only she knew. She encouraged me to become active in BBYO. We shared numerous positions in the chapter, and she encouraged me to be a leader with her by my side. She taught me friendship, loyalty, and kindness. Just last week, she was telling me about charity work she was doing and I was taken aback that she still found time to fill her world with philanthropy. She always knew how to make me smile, and no matter how long we hadn’t talked, it always felt exactly the same when we picked up the phone. I will miss her bear hugs, funny face greeting cards, and bright smile. I will treasure every memory I have and work to pass forward her light through my own acts daily.

  37. Kelly Hill nee Sclafani says:

    I knew Mallory through our days at UCR, as members of AXO. Whenever I think of her she is smiling. She was an incredibly strong, focused, intelligent and confident woman. I think we all knew Mallory would go on to accomplish amazing things. I was so proud (and not bit surprised) that she conquered law school. She was taken far too soon and she will be forever in my heart. I know that I was lucky to have known her.

  38. Dear Jay, Nora and Meredith,

    My family and I are so incredibly sorry for your loss. Our condolences and prayers go out to you and your family. If there is anything at all we can do, please do not hesitate to call on us. While we did not know Mallory, we can see by reading all the comments from family and friends that she was an amazing bright light in the world. May she continue to shine her brightness down to us from up above. I found this quote in honor of Mallory, may it bring you some comfort and peace.

    ♥ ‎”We can’t know why the lily has so brief a time to bloom in the warmth of sunlight’s kiss upon its face before it folds into its fragrance and bids the world good night to rest its beauty in a gentler place. But we can know that nothing that is loved is ever lost and no one who has touched a heart can really pass away because some beauty lingers on in each memory of which they’ve been a part.” -Ellen Brenneman

  39. Diann says:

    Jay, Nora & Meredith,

    There are no words. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

  40. Matt Aboyme says:

    Mallory was a truly amazing person. One of the many things I admired about her was that she always had a witty retort for anything you could say to her. She was also one of the kindest persons I have ever known; the way she lived her life could inspire us all to be better people. My deepest condolences to her family and her boyfriend.

  41. William Owen says:

    I feel so lucky to have had Mallory as a confidant, as a running buddy, a co-conspirator and a friend. She was such a kind and bright person, generous, with an approach to the world open and wondrous. We shared so many laughs and good times here in New York, I am shocked and gutted by her loss, and cannot help but feel diminished by her absence but I know in time her legacy will be the warmth and light she brought into our lives.

    Nora and Jay, I know I speak for all of her friends here in NY that if there is anything you or your family need please let us know.

  42. Jennifer Reynolds Carr says:

    I have not seen Mallory in over 10 years. Used to spend lunch time with her and a big group of girls in high school. Shocked and saddened by this news. Sending love to the Ross family and friends.

  43. Lauren Shorten says:

    Nora, Jay & Meredith,

    My deepest of sympathies you and your family. I am so upset by the news of Mallory’s passing. I haven’t spoken to her in sometime but just seeing her smile on facebook I always knew she was right there. Just the other day I was thinking that I needed to email her and tell her how proud I was of the woman she has become. Lesson learned never wait to do something like that ever again! The world lost an incredible person. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

  44. Debbie and Pat Gallagher says:

    Pat and I always enjoyed when Mallory shared her New York experiences at Audrey and Ken’s gatherings. She found success in all she strived to do. We were so saddened to hear of her passing. Our thoughts are with you.

  45. Jeff Marcus says:

    I’m so sorry for you loss. My heartfelt sympathies go out to your family.

  46. Ellen Roderick says:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss, and offer my deepest sympathy to you all. Sara and Laurie are both upset, as they really liked Mallory (she was Sara’s mentor in BBG and Laurie’s “neighbor” in band). I remember how proud you were of everything she (and Meredith too) did. May she rest in peace.

  47. michael says:

    i met mallory through alan – i am deepened saddened by your loss and I send my sympathies

  48. Ed Idell says:

    My deepest sympathies. Please reach out if there is anything I can do to help in any way.

  49. Kayla Darcy-Goldrick says:

    Words are so inadequate and cannot express my heartfelt sympathy for you all. I never had the privilege of meeting Mallory but felt that I knew her from the proud and glowing comments that Jay has always said about Mallory (and Meredith). She sounds like an amazing, talented and wonderful person. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  50. Robin Rose says:

    To Mallory’s Family –

    No words can express my shock and utter sadness upon hearing the news of your beautiful daughter/sister. She will always be a very important friend in my son’s (Jake Kale) life and heart. It wasn’t that long ago both girls were part of the group of friends in aza/bbg, growing up through high school, making college plans and I remember Mallory telling me she was going to move to NY, go to law school and sure enough, became a lawyer. I have pride not only for my children but their friend’s ventures and successes as well.

    May you find comfort in your love and memories and knowing how much Mallory made a difference in this world.

  51. Brad Allen says:

    Words can’t do justice for my feelings but I just want to express how I knew Mallory. Mallory was a huge part of my life over the past 6 years. Together we grew into the roles of lawyers and professionals. She was my friend from law school, she was someone I believed in, and she believed in me, sometimes when I didn’t even believe in myself, she would always remind me that I was able to get through whatever task I was doing, and this meant more than anything. We didn’t always know what we were doing but we led each other – sometimes it was the blind leading the blind, but we always got it done. Somehow we always figured out how to solve the issue whether it was somebody being sued for a small fortune or a person who needed a professional license in order to turn their life around and get back on track – we always figured it out.

    I met Mallory in my second year of law school, she was in my Crim Pro class. During class she and I were two of the more active participants who were not afraid to express our liberal views when it came to 4th and 5th amendment violations. One day after class, we stuck up conversation and spent at least an hour talking on the corner of Worth and Church Streets, I believe it was in Fall of 2007. Our political views completely mirrored each other and I think that is part of the reason we enjoyed each other’s company so much. That street conversation outside NYLS really took shape over the years that followed. Our circle of friends intertwined and then at times drifted, but we became better friends and our trust in each other as friends and later as professionals ever strengthened. Mallory was always there to help me out with advice on relationship trouble, or to tell me if my interpretation of law was correct. I remember when we took the NJ bar in 2009 we drove to the Medowlands from my house since I lived in NJ. Half way there, and with not much time to spare, I realized I forgot my ticket to enter. I completely freaked out, poor Mallory calmed me down, told me to just simply turn around and go get the ticket and reassured me it would be okay and that we would still make it in time. The entire time, she too had to deal with the fact that she may be late to take the bar exam because of my forgetfulness. For those of you who are unaware, the bar exam is the most stressful time of a young to-be lawyers life and if you are late, you are locked out and have to wait 6 months. Ultimately we got there in time, with my ticket, and we both passed the test. This turned into life as a lawyers for us, we would help each other get through it and never take all the credit nor give all the blame, we just did it together as a team. When we graduated I took a job at a mortgage bank working for some great people who were growing a business and I desperately needed help. I had so much on my plate and didn’t know where to start. I needed someone to help me get it done, I needed someone who could work with me and make this incredibly arduous task manageable. Mallory accepted the challenged. This was 4 years ago in the Fall of 2009. Ever since, she has worked with me just about everyday to calm me down and remind me to turn around and get my ticket to take the bar exam. She would always help me look at the big picture, she always helped me to just get a grip! Together we have learned to be young adults and lawyers and I can’t imagine this without her. She has been the best friend someone can ever have and I will miss her forever and I trust her advice will still be forthcoming when I panic and forget my ticket. I miss you so much. -Brad

  52. Elin Aslanyan says:

    Dear Jay and Nora, I’m heartbroken for your immense loss. My deepest sympathies to your family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  53. Cara Goldman says:

    Dear Nora and Jay,

    I have no words to say how I am feeling right now because I am so heartbroken and devastated after hearing this sad news. I love you so much and can’t even imagine what you and your family are going through, but I am here if you need anything and truly I am so sorry for your loss. I think so many of us are in shock and we all love you and your family so much that it is impossible to really believe that this could have happened because you are like family to me. Just know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers – from Stu and Jack as well. We love you.

  54. Anon says:

    Hey Mallory

    What do you call a dinosaur with an extensive vocabulary ?

    A thesaurus .

    The sun shines brighter now that you are there looking down upon us with the wonderful smile. :)

  55. Barbara Bohr says:

    As a parent, we always hope our kids make friends with young folks that are decent human beings. When my daughter Sabrina found BBYO in Granada Hills, I was thrilled. We drove every week from Simi Valley to Granada Hills so she could join the group and enjoy good friendships. I would drive Sabrina to Mallory’s home for sleepovers, and make the return trip to pick her up, and she was always so thrilled to have shared that time. Mallory and Sabrina became friends and shared so much. I am so glad Sabrina had a friend in Mallory.
    We are so saddened by this untimely loss of a beautiful young lady. My deepest condolences are with the family she left behind.
    Barbara and Boris Bohr

  56. Gaby says:

    I am speechless. My thoughts are with you and your family.
    It is too close to home.

  57. George says:

    My deepest condolences to Mallory’s family as well as my buddy Alan. I only met Mallory a couple of times but it was clear to me that she was a great person who made the world a better place just with her presence. There is a little less light in the world today. May you find comfort during this difficult time.

  58. John and Maria P. says:

    Nora, jay and Meredith, this is the saddest news. We got to work with Mallory a little and when there was a hiccup we get to talk with her and nothing was a big deal and she was the Ultimate Professional. I met her a few times with Nora and she was such a great girl and clearly impressed everybody around her especially as she left Mum speechless.
    Our deepest Sympathy all our Hearts are Broken at your Loss.

  59. Jake Kale says:

    There’s nothing I can say that would be the right words. Nothing I could emote that would explain this devastation. Mallory was like an older sister to me, kind, protective, brash, honest, heartfelt, complicated, loving, smart, joyful, curious, loving, and a million more words that barely skim the surface of the wonderful person she was to have in my life for the last 15 years. I’m still in shock, it seems impossible. Nothing would be better than to her her voice, her opinions, to see her smile… I’m blessed to have had her in my life and I’ll live every day trying to make her proud. Jay, Nora, and Meredith, be as strong as you possibly can, but until things settle, I’m here for you, anything you need. Right now Mallory is probably correcting my grammar or convincing me to agree with her, and as much as it pains me, she’s right, even in death, she’s winning whatever argument my heart and soul feel, and I’m coming to realize I’m fine with her having the last word. Goodbye my friend.

  60. Allison Buckley says:

    Mallory was a dear friend in high school. Sadly, we lost touch over the years, but I still have many fond memories of her – always full of joy and laughter. My heart goes out to her family at this horrible time. Please let us know if there will be a service in California.

  61. Peggy Menegakis says:

    A loss
    to my friends
    is felt
    Emptiness creeps in
    and the void
    as a sad song
    in the night.

  62. Jenn Roberts says:

    My deepest condolences to Jay, Nora, and Meredith. Mallory was such a wonderful person. Please let me know if there is going to be a memorial service or if you will be sitting shiva. My thoughts are with your family.

  63. Randi Rider says:

    My deepest condolences for you and your family. Although no words can really help to ease your loss, just know that you are in everyone’s thoughts and prayers. May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead.

  64. Deborah Sable says:

    Dear Nora and Jay,

    Words at this time are only words. If you could see in my heart you would see how very deeply and sadden I really feel for your family. I don’t know the pain of losing a child but I know the love for a child. There is no other!

    Please know if you need anything and I mean anything please let me know; I’ll be there for you. Find comfort in each other and hold each other close. Love and prayers to you all.

  65. Michelle and Rose Goldwater says:

    Dear Nora and Jay,

    We are speechless. Our love, thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  66. Les Himes says:

    Nora and Jay,

    I am at a loss. My deepest deepest condolences. We have talked so many times about our kids, especially our daughters. You never fail to ask how my Kate is doing. And you always meant it when you asked. It was just a few days ago when we were comparing their progress in life. I am so stunned. and so very sorry.


  67. Dearest Nora, Jay & Meredith,
    Words escape me…this is not possible! I know the loving gift Mallory has been to you all. My hope for you, as you celebrate Mallory’s life, is to remember her smile, her compassion and gift of laughter. I send you all a big Hug. Please know I’m here day or night if I may help in any way. Love, Shirley

  68. Michael Lotan says:

    Mallory was one of the most beautiful people I have ever known. I love her so much. Meredith, I wish you the best of strength. So much love

  69. Bridget Karl says:


    My deepest sympathies to you and your family. My heart weighs very heavy for all of you.

    Much love,

  70. Geralyn says:

    Nora, Jay and Meredith,

    Mallory was truly one of the best friends I have ever had. She was full of life and made every memory better. We use to joke that her family was just the west coast version of mine. You are my west family and I am deeply sorry and heartbroken. My deepest condolences.

  71. Helene Hart says:

    Dear Jay & Nora,

    My thoughts and prayers are with you. So sorry for your loss.

  72. Bob Cohen says:

    Dear Nora And Jay,

    Having just dropped our daughter off at college, it really hits home what a child means to a parent. No words can express how sorry I am for your loss. My prayers and thoughts will be with you now and during the upcoming High Holidays.

  73. Wendy Gerber says:

    Nora, Jay & Family,

    There are no words I can say that will comfort you. Only time and good friends help the healing process. Know that all of us as parents feel sick knowing the pain you are going through and we are here for you for anything at any time. We all love and care for you and even though I had never met her know that she must of been an amazing woman like her mother is! My deepest feelings of love and understanding are here for you at any time. Love you Nora!!

  74. Michelle Gilstrap says:

    Nora, and Family,
    I just heard of your terrible loss, and just wanted to let you know how sad I am that you are going through this tragedy. My daughter is close to your daughter’s age, and I know I would be lost. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers that this time will one surrounded by love of family and friends.
    So terribly sorry.

  75. Karin & Richard Howard says:

    Dear Nora, Jay and Meredith,

    Special thoughts and heartfelt prayers are with you and your family during this time of sorrow.

    May G-d comfort you along with the mourners of Tzion and Jerusalem.

  76. Vicki Temkin says:

    Dear Nora, Jay & Meredith,

    There is nothing anyone can say to ease your pain. This is a tragedy a parent should not have to bear. I am so so terribly sad to hear of Mallory’s very untimely passing. I only met her once – and she was a true delight!! – but I had many wonderful talks with Jay about how proud he is of her.
    Know that she touched many hearts. And our hearts are breaking with yours.

  77. Nora Onofrio says:

    I only knew Mallory for a brief time at UCR and she truly was a wonderful, joyful, and intelligent person. My condolences to all her family and loved ones in this time.

  78. Susie and Robert Goldberg says:

    Nora,Jay and Meredith,

    We can’t imagine the loss you are all going through !

    With that said,we hope that in time you will heal and smile with the memory of the love and joy Mallory brought to you.

    No one should ever go through the loss of a child and sibling so young but, from what I’ve heard the quality of love and joy Mallory gave in her short years was a full life time to most.

    Susie and Robert

  79. Lauren Rosenberg says:

    It is with great difficulty and a heavy heart that I commit these thoughts to words. Mallory was so special to me, and I pray she knew/knows that. I always aspired to be more like Mallory when we were in BBYO, our Jewish youth group – she was vivacious, courageous, popular, and a born leader (and everyone knew it). Hundreds of girls voted for her to be president of our BBYO region. I certainly wasn’t the only one that looked up to her. She accepted me when no one else did, and we understood each other on a deeper level. She could connect with anyone and helped guide me through many life lessons and milestones. She touched and inspired not just me, but an entire generation of Jewish girls in LA. I remember a friend’s reaction upon meeting her for the first time when she came over to my place in West Hollywood a few years ago – she was so taken aback by Mallory’s poise and beauty. If she only knew how beautiful she was inside and out. Everyone who called Mallory a friend leads a life that is richer for it. I miss you, and deeply regret we didn’t stay in touch the last couple of years. You are so loved and missed. My heartfelt sympathies go out to her parents, Meredith and her boyfriend and everyone else who is in pain due to this great loss. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through.

    All my love,

  80. Sophia Efrem says:

    I found out about Mallory’s passing 28 minutes after Alan posted about it in Facebook. To me, it felt as if the bottom fell out from under me. It took me from that moment to now to recover enough to be able to put a string of sentences together.

    I was never officially introduced to Mal. We were in class together and I heard her name mentioned but we never spoke to each other. Until we both went on a field trip of sorts. Our Constitutional Law professor was able to obtain tickets to an argument before the Supreme Court of the United States. When we met up in Washington D.C. she said something to me, something incredibly sweet and very Mallory. I wish I remembered what she said, I really do. But whatever her words, they were said at a time when I desperately needed the kindness. Perhaps she knew it, maybe she didn’t, but it truly did affect my life. Over the years we spoke to each other, tried to meet up, but it never happened. I regret that now. She was a beautiful and vivacious person with a sweet personality that shone in her eyes and face. I truly will miss her. Please accept my condolences at this most terrible time. Should you need anything at all, please do not hesitate to let me know.

  81. barbara says:

    Nora, Jay & Meredith,
    My heart hurts for you all. I pray that you will gain strength to deal with this tragedy. May you find comfort though the support of others and your family. Mallory will always be in your hearts and memories. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I wish any word could comfort you, but i know no word could comfort you at this time. I had to reach out to you. Love Barbara @ Dr. Gerecht’s office

  82. Janet and Jim Crisman says:

    Nora, Jay and Meredith
    Our words are not adequate to express the sorrow we feel for your loss. There is no pain more far-reaching and deeper than losing a child. We hope you can find strength and comfort in family and friends and your memories of Mallory will always be in your hearts. Our hearts and prayers go out to all of you during this most difficult time.
    With Love, Janet and Jim

  83. Ryan Laddey says:

    My deepest sympathies to your family. I met mallory a little over 2 years ago in New York playing dodgeball and kickball together. She’s become a very good friend off the court. I saw her on Thursday and just wish I could’ve hugged her a little harder when the night was over. I’m glad I got to enjoy her annual “favorite day of the year” earlier this month – boating on Lake hopatcong. We will all miss her greatly.

  84. Melanie Backman says:

    I was one of Mallory’s sorority sisters and was always in awe of her strong, powerful, but hilarious personality! Mal’s smile was definitely contagious! Mal was an amazing woman and such an inspiration to many, as evidenced on this site. My heart sank last night when I heard the news, and I am saddened that the world lost a wonderful soul too early! Please let us know about any planned services in CA. I know that my sisters and I would love to be there for support.

    Condolences to the Ross family and Alan. May her memory be a blessing!


  85. Nick Palmeri says:

    To the Ross family my condolences are with you…I first meet Mallory at a BBYO event when we were in 8th grade at the Northridge JCC. She graced the halls of our first meeting together with her great big smile, humor, laughter, and coachablity of learning to grow as a leader as I was there as well to learn to become a better person and to lead others.

    Over the course of the 4 years in BBYO, we grew as leaders and friends. When I moved to Las Vegas, we saw each other at summer camp, and at regional events. All I can say is she was a special person. A person of humility, conviction, and passion, for life.

    I found out about the news when I got home at 11pm last night and logged onto facebook. I immediately grabbed a shot of my favorite bourbon and said a prayer, and saluted this fine young woman who touched so many. I shed a some tears as I knew I am one of the lucky ones to have meet such an amazing human being.

  86. Scott says:

    Uncle Jay, Aunt Nora and Meredith – we are devastated and shocked to hear about Mallory… I can’t imagine what you’re going through, and have no idea what to say other than we’re thinking of and praying for all of you at this incredibly difficult time. I only wish we had spent more time with you and Mallory. We haven’t seen her since she was a teenager, but I remember her as being an eternally happy, caring, intelligent, beautiful young woman who was part of a really close, loving family. I knew she was destined to do great things in life, and I know that even though her time here was entirely too short, she made the most of it and greatly affected the lives of everyone she knew.

    We love you all very much, I hope you know that.

    Scott, Sara and the boys

  87. Brad Allen says:

    I wanted to inform you all of a memorial service that will be held in honor of Mallory tomorrow night, August 28th, 2013. This service will be held at New York Law School located at 185 West Broadway, New York, NY from 7pm to 9pm. Food and refreshments will be provided and all are welcome to attend.

    We look forward to seeing you there. Thank you.

  88. Jessika Bekteshi says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with Mallory’s family and friends. I just heard the news and I am saddened. I had the pleasure of meeting Mallory while working at ICG. She was so kind and I loved her sense of humor. We always had a greattime at work with the rest of the girls.

    I wish I could be at the service but am unfortunately out of town but my heart is with Mallory and her family.

    Mallory, thank you for being such a wonderful light and joy.

    Love always,

  89. Lynne Stokell says:

    Jay and Nora,
    I know you through Jay’s sister, Audrey. I clearly remember seeing you with Mallory in her stroller 28 years ago at Matt and Erin’s birthday party. She was a beautiful baby who grew to be an amazing young woman. My heart breaks for you. I am crying as I type, imagining the depth of your suffering. I hope that all of the wonderful entries written on this website will comfort you as this time of nightmarish grief. The world was made a better place by the presence of Mallory in it, no matter how brief a time that sadly turned out to be. God bless you all and comfort you.

  90. Jay, Nora and Meredith ~

    “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal”.

    All of us at 60 Minute Tune are deeply saddened to hear the very sad news about Mallory. Please know you are all in our thoughts and prayers and wishing you peace, love and light during this very sad time. We are here for you if there is anything, anything at all, we can do to help you during the difficult days ahead.

    With our deepest condolences ~

    Dave Jackson and staff at 60 Minute Tune.

  91. Bobbie says:

    Dearest Nora, Jay and Meredith,
    At a time like this there are no words to express the deep sorrow felt by all who know your family. We feel we have lost a family member. You are all so dear to us and we can’t make it better which really hurts, you always want to make the hurt go away when loved ones are in pain.
    Please know we are here for you now and later.
    We love you all dearly.
    Bobbie and John

  92. Sheba says:

    Jay, Nora, Meredith,

    When I first heard the news, I was in deep shock and utter disbelief. I’m still in shock but as the minutes go by, I feel my heart getting heavier and heavier with grief. Mal was a sweet girl, and I enjoyed being in BBG with her. I always felt so cool and special when she would want to hang out with me. She had that affect on people. She was charming, and every time I saw her at 2ndgiving, she always had a warm smile and hug and sweet things to say. She just had a way of making you simply feel good. I can only imagine the pain and sadness you feel and words can never describe it. Please know I am here to support and I give my love to you all right now and always. She is consuming my thoughts. I love you Mal, and I’ll always cherish the fun times driving around with you in your Red Mustang….

  93. Andrew Karl says:

    Mallory was an amazing person, and was so blessed to spend a few short years with her at UC Riverside. I have the fondest memories of her, and she will be very sorely missed.

  94. Stella Kain says:

    Dear Nora, Jay, and Meredith,

    My deepest sympathy goes out to all of you. My memories of Mallory are mostly from her childhood, and early teens. I do remember how much joy she brought to the Glickman-Ross family. I know through other family members of Mallory’s accomplishments, and what a bright, kind, and lovely young lady she was. I know she’ll be greatly missed.


  95. Natasha Gershon says:

    I keep reminding myself to be grateful. To be grateful that I was blessed enough to have had Mallory in my life. I am grateful that I can still remember in vivid detail the first time I met Mallory. Inside a dingy, rundown pizza parlor in Chatsworth on a gloomy Super Bowl Sunday, there Mallory was like a ball of pure light and warmth. She befriended a shy and lonely teenage girl without any hesitation and offered to have Nora drive me home. For that one moment I will be eternally grateful because it was the first of countless acts of friendship we would share that would change the geography of my life. Mallory had so many enviable qualities in overwhelming abundance that most people only have in small amounts. She was generous, loving, caring, brave, gregarious, determined, fiercely loyal, unwavering in her love of family and friends and just damn good at being herself. Nothing I could ever put in to words could describe the indelible mark that Mallory has left on those whose lives were lucky enough to have had her in it even for the briefest of moments. There won’t be a day that goes by that I won’t miss her bubbly voice when she picks up the phone or sharing a bear hug when we saw each other after long stretches of time. But I will be forever grateful for each and every memory I have of her.

    Nora, Jay and Mere,
    My heart aches for the indescribable loss that has descended upon you. You are all in my heart, thoughts and prayers.

    All my love,

  96. LAURA CERASE says:

    My deepest heartfelt sympathy to your family. I met Mallory when she asked Geralyn to be her room mate. From the minute we met her, we felt Geralyn was so lucky to have found a friend like Mallory. Over the years we spent several holidays, family occasions and Sunday dinners together. She was beautiful inside and out and we loved her dearly. There are no words to express how much she will be missed.

    Your family will be in our thoughts and prayers always.

    Laura and Anthony Cerase

  97. Jeff Krieger says:

    Nora and Jay,
    So shocked and saddened to hear about Mallory. Our condolences to you both and all the friends and family who she touched.
    The Kriegers

  98. David Frank says:

    Dont know what to say, my heart is broken.
    she was an amazing person, with such a beautiful soul.
    She lit up everyone around her, although I am a far away cousin, I cherish the time spent at our family reunion in NY.
    I was so proud of her to see her graduate from law school.
    and am happy to see how she touched so many peoples lives, she will leave a piece of her happiness in everybody who knew her.

    With love,
    Cousin David

  99. Brian Kreutter says:

    Deepest sympathies to your family. I knew Mallory as a fierce competitor on the kickball diamond and dodgeball court and at related social events. She had a great smile and a quick wit. Mallory was great at giving advice and being thoughtful. I am blessed to have had the opportunity to get to know her.

  100. Claire says:

    Although I hadn’t talked to Mallory in years I am still deeply saddened but such a horrible loss. I met Mallory in D’vash and while only a year older then me I looked up to her. I will always remember her kind soul, and amazing energy. My condolences to Meredith, her parents, and her copious amount of friends and family who will forever miss her.

  101. Kaitlyn says:

    Such a beautiful person, inside and out. I loved her goofy sense of humor and her insistence that I always be good to myself. She was so much fun, so full of joy. She had a brilliant mind and such strong convictions about what she believed in. And she was fearless–easily one of the bravest people I have ever met. I’m so lucky to have known her and so sorry that she had to go so soon.

  102. Barbara Nadjar says:

    Dear Nora, Jay and Meredith,

    Words could not possibly express our deep saddness and shock over the loss of your beautiful daughter and sister. May her love always live on in your hearts. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Barbara and Gaby Nadjar

  103. Mallory's Dad says:

    Thank you…

    Thank you… you have made me smile :), you have made me weep :(,

    Thank you for sharing such beautiful stories with us over the past few days. Keep them coming… they bring us that much closer to solace.

  104. vanessa carpenter says:

    Jay your words still ring in my ears.. I woke up this morning hoping this was all just a bad dream. Growing up at your house and all the fun times the girls and I shared will live on in my heart forever.. Mallory her wonderful soul is now flying up in heaven. fly now sweet angel fly.. I love you all.. prayed last night for Mallory to send u guys her strength!!! I’m sure she heard my prayers… I love u my family across the street!!!! ~Ness

  105. Lori and Arie says:

    Nora and Jay, I know that there is nothing we can say to make this tragedy any better. But, please know that we are here for you during this very difficult time. We love you and would do anything for you. You can cry on our shoulders any time.

    Mallory was a very lucky girl to have you as her parents. I’m sure that she will now watch over you and Meredith from heaven.

    As you said, she lived a full life and commanded the room when she walked in. She managed to do a lot in her 29 years. Hopefully, those memories will carry you through until you see her again in heaven.

    Lori and Arie

  106. Sharon Novins says:

    Jay and Nora,
    We are so sorry to hear about your daughter’s passing. We offer our deepest condolences to you and all of your family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

    Mike and Sharon Novins

  107. Jackie S. says:

    Dear Nora,Jay and Meredith

    There’s no word that can express how sorry we are to hear about the loss of Mallory, we were very stunnned,sad, and upset to hear this news and still can’t believe that it really happened .This can not be real.Mallory was a sweet girl, always smiling but at the same time serious.She had a cute smile and the most beautiful teeth that matched her and her personality.During this difficult moment our thoughts and prayers will always be with you and your family.We love you guys.please give each other a huge embrace from us. our love and sympathy to you guys. lot’s of strenght for the little sister Meredith. We love you! Jackie @ Dr. Gerecht’s office.

  108. Sara Hollander (Maynard) says:

    Nora, Jay, Meredith…(and Erica, she always said you were like a little sister to her), Mallory (or Mally as I always called her even though we didn’t talk much as we got older) was a rock of mine at CES from age 12 and the first person to take me trick or treating and let me hang out way too long at your house with your dogs (Max and Moe) and Mally knew how desperately I wanted to move to England so when she went she brought me back a Big Ben keychain and I hung it above my bed until I went to university and I still have it in my special keepsakes box because she encouraged me and said it was a worthwhile dream (even so young). I live in London now and her keychain has travelled the world with me. I know it is silly but it means a lot to me. We weren’t as close during and after uni but I knew I could just pick up the phone and we could talk like no time had passed. I just can’t believe she is gone, it is surreal. I’m so sorry for your loss, thank you for raising such a wonderful daughter and your endless patience with me as well.


  109. Florine Goodman says:

    Nora, Jay and Meredith….I just join the many who have the same heavy hearts and extreme loss of words, but want you to know how our thoughts are of you! As Jay said, this has changed your life forever and rightly so……forever she is in your heart, forever she is in you memories and forever she is your shinning light! Put me on the list of those you might need sometime!!!!!


  110. Steve & Debbie Weinshenk says:

    Dearest Jay and Nora:

    Our hearts bleed for you and your family. May god give you strength.

    Steve and Debbie

  111. Corrie Chitlik says:

    I’m deeply sorry for your loss and this is an utter shock. I meet Mallory freshman year at UCR and lived in the same dorms and we’re in a sorority together. I will always remember Mallory as hilarious and brilliant. At Halloween she dressed as a Greek goddess with a sign that said “gift from god.” I’ll never forget that.

  112. Rebecca Feinerman says:

    There are no words for such a tragic loss. I knew Mallory in BBG/BBYO. I have soooo many fond memories of our fun and crazy times in BBG! Mal had a great heart and she truly was a beautiful girl inside and out. Although it has been awhile since i’ve last spoke to her I will cherish all of our memories as young B’nai B’rith Girls . To her family I am so very sorry for your loss. To Mal you will be forever missed and forever loved. xoxo


  113. Daneene says:

    I can’t believe this heart breaking news….I have tried to let this sink in since last night and I am still in shock. The memories from our college sorority days have been rushing into my memory for the last 24 hours, we had some great times. To the Ross family and her boyfriend I am so sorry for your loss and will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

    Mallory you will be missed!

  114. Jerome says:


    I’ve known you from the dorms.

    Haven’t spoken to you in years, but I pray for you and your family.

  115. Kealani says:

    To Jay, Nora, Merideth, and Alan,
    I have no idea where to start. I couldn’t have been more horrifically shocked when I heard this devastating news. Mallory was a healthy, beautiful, intelligent, independent and loving woman, who said it all with her smile alone. She had the most loving parents and sister who did every thing possible to show her love and involvement in her bright future. I have the fondest memories of my childhood…camp Ross right across the street how could you beat that? Best summer camp around. All we did was live care free, swimming, riding bikes, watching Nickelodeon, eating raw top ramen and cold hot dogs. Who knew such simplicity could bring so much joy. It just shows how precious it is to be around people you love, enjoy the small stuff in life and appreciate every second of it. I will focus on those moments that we shared. My heart is with your family. If it is ok with you, I would like to stop by tomorrow. Xoxo

    1. Mallory's Dad says:

      camp grounds are open

      1. Kealani says:

        Be there tonight…

  116. Mallory's Dad says:

    You were my sunshine, my only sunshine
    You made me happy when skies were grey
    You’ll never know, Mal, how much I love you
    Please don’t take my sunshine away

    The other night, Mal, as I lay sleeping
    I dreamt I held you in my arms
    When I awoke, Mal, I was mistaken
    So I held my head and cried and cried

    You were OUR sunshine, OUR only sunshine
    You made US happy when skies were grey
    You’ll never know, Mal, how much WE love you
    Please don’t take OUR sunshine away
    and cause its’ happened, that’s why we’re here
    cause something has taken, SOME sunshine away…

    1. Mallory's Dad says:

      You will be home soon.

      1. admin says:

        Sing along…

  117. Lindsey Flam (Moss) says:

    I have been struggling to put my thoughts into words. A little less than two months ago Mallory and Alan travelled all the way from New York to be in L.A. for Justin and my wedding. When I found out they would be coming, I felt honored and blessed that it meant as much to her to be there as it meant to us to have her there. I will never forget how I felt when Mallory greeted me at my wedding with the same big smile and kiss on the cheek I always get; the one that just makes you feel loved.

    Mallory taught me to be strong and steadfast in my beliefs and to stand up for myself. She was an innate leader who impacted the lives of all those around her. So many of us in BBG looked up to her. Mallory’s bright light will continue to shine through all those whose lives she has touched.

    Meredith, Nora, Jay, and Alan – My deepest condolences and sympathy go out to you. You are all in my thoughts, prayers, and heart during this difficult time. Sending lots of love your way. <3


  118. I met Mallory about two years ago playing dodgeball. We became fast friends, as it seems that’s what Mallory is good at. I moved to NC from NYC about four-months ago and I had a small brunch with a few close friends, Mal was there. My heart is broken and all my love, prayers and well wishes go to her family and to Alan.

    Who I really feel bad for are the people that never got to know Mal, and now, never will. She was such a special person, a light in a dark room – or heck, any room really. Her vibrant smile. I’ll never forget her smile and that’s because she was pretty much always smiling – and she didn’t just smile with her lips, she smiled with her eyes, she smiled with her soul.

    I know Mal would appreciate the Allman Brothers tribute:

    He used to say soulshine,
    It’s better than sunshine,
    It’s better than moonshine,
    Damn sure better than rain.
    Yeah now people don’t mind,
    We all get this way sometime,
    Got to let your soul shine Mal, shine till the break of day.

    You’ll never be forgotten Mallory – Love you girl.


  119. Mike Simon says:

    My deepest condolences to the Ross family and Alan. I met Mallory just a few years ago but she quickly became a great friend. I will never forget how excited she was after making a catch in dodgeball or getting a hit in kickball, and how her enthusiasm energized everyone around her. I always looked forward to seeing her and hearing her jokes. Mallory will be greatly missed by everyone that knew her.

  120. Andi Levine says:

    Mallory was such a special person and while I haven’t seen the rest of your family probably since I was in highschool, Mallory and I remained in touch over the years. We started out as friends at Camp Shalom and I was forever greatful that the summer before my freshman year of highschool she brought me to my first BBYO meeting and my life was forever changed. Mallory was such a wonderful friend and person and she always wanted to do good in the world. She will be greatly missed. My thoughts and prayers are with her loved ones.

    ~Andi Levine

  121. Niki Atchison says:

    I knew Mallory from UCR, we were sorority pledge sisters and friends. She had these qualities that I didn’t understand until I was older and looking back she was truly ahead of the game. She knew how to get what she wanted but with and endearing sense of humor. And although she carried herself with confidence it wasn’t the kind that took away from those around her but made them shine a little brighter too. I can’t begin to believe she’s gone, nor can I imagine the grief of those that love her. My thoughts and prayers are with you, may she always shine in the hearts of everyone who was lucky enough to know her.

  122. Michael Lotan says:

    I’ve been looking at Mallory’s pictures on facebook and thinking about how spectacular she is. No one makes me feel quite how she made me feel. She was brilliant, fun, optimistic, and caring and I was absolutely in love with her. I’m keeping her memories close

  123. Julie "Heber" Simon says:

    I’m saddened and shocked to hear about Mallory. Although I haven’t kept in contact with her since the days of BBG, I remember her fondly. She was a sweet, smart, fun and always lit up the room. My deepest sympathies go out to her family at this time.

  124. Julie "Heber" Simon says:

    I’m saddened and shocked to hear about Mallory. Although I haven’t kept in contact with her since the days of BBG, I remember her fondly. She was sweet, smart, fun and always lit up the room. My deepest sympathies go out to her family at this time.

  125. Esther & Neal Lester says:

    Dearest Nora, Jay & Meredith,

    Mallory was a light in your eyes. We saw it when you spoke proudly of her. There are no words that can express the sadness we feel for you. We hope in time the pain of your loss will be slowly replaced by memories that will give you comfort. Please know that you have the love of your friends and if we can do anything in anyway for you, we are here for you – just a call away. You are in our prayers.

  126. Justin Flam says:

    Nora, Jay, Mere and Alan,

    I know I will never be able to put into words how heartbroken I am for your (our) loss. From the moment I met her, it was apparent that Mallory was truly one of a kind. She was such a warm and loving person, evident in her trademarked Hug and Kiss combo for hellos and goodbyes. No matter how long it had been since we had last seen each other or spoken, we could always pick up where we left off. It was never awkward.

    Mal and I had a special bond. We were both born on 8/10/1984. She called me her twin (although, she never failed to remind me that she was my elder since I was born in the afternoon). I’ll forever miss the Birthday calls and Facebook messages.

    Every 8/10 and every Second Giving, I will think of Mal. I will try not to think of the emptiness I feel in her absence, but instead of all the wonderful moments we shared over the past 13 years.


  127. To Jay, Nora, Merideth, and Alan,
    I,m not sure how to say how sad we are for your loss.
    We lost my sister Stella just about 20 yrs.ago and I can remember my Dad saying “This is something that should never happen to a family, to lose a sibling before the parents”.
    Every time I look at my sister’s picture it brings back a lot of good memories.
    Our thoughts and sympathies are with you and your family and we hope the wonderful memories you shared with Mallory will bring your family comfort.
    You are in our thoughts and prayers.
    Carl & Shirley Friedman

  128. Christine McDougall says:

    Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard, but always near. Still loved, still missed and very dear. – Unknown

    My heart reaches out to you, your wife and your beautiful family! Love always.

  129. Allison Young says:

    I have fond memories of Mallory when she was a student at SOCES. I often tell the story of how she decided to go to UCR and how she was such a shining star and went on to law school. Those of us from CES who knew her are all shocked and saddened to hear of her passing. I will continue to tell her story. My deepest condolences to Jay, Nora and Meredith.

  130. Diana Williams says:

    There are no words to comfort you or lessen the pain. I just want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. My heart hurts for you. Love Diana Williams

  131. Miriam S. Begg says:

    Dear Jay, Nora and Meredith,

    I was saddened and shocked to hear the news about your beloved daughter Mallory. I can’t even imagine the pain and sorrow you are feeling. Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss. May peace and courage be with you at this time. You are in my thoughts and in my heart.


    Miriam Begg

  132. Alex Conner says:

    Mal, your smile will radiate in my heart forever.

    Thank you for being you, and bringing sunshine and happiness into our lives.

    I will always love you my friend, and I will never forget the profound impact you had on me.

    I am grateful to know you.


  133. Rosalba Gonzalez says:

    Dear Nora and family,

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I know how close to your heart Mallory is to your heart. Your pride, your joy in her and your children shine bright every time that you speak of them. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help. Stay strong!


  134. Amy Morgenstern says:

    Dear Nora, Jay, Meredith, and Erica,

    I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now. It’s heartbreaking to think of how much you’re suffering. It’s impossible to make sense of this.

    -Amy from grade school

  135. Marcia and Jim Brammer says:

    Dear Nora, Jay and Meredith,

    Marcia and I are so sorry to learn of Mallory’s passing. There is very little at a time like this to say other than we are very glad that she was in your life as long as she was. That doesn’t reduce the pain you are feeling but, in time, perhaps it will give you comfort.

    May your memories of happier times and the many wonderful things about Mallory help sustain you during this difficult time. Please know that you are in our prayers and if there is anything at all that we can do for you, please let us know.

    With much love and our deepest sympathy,

    Marcia and Jim Brammer

  136. Esther Walker says:

    Dear Nora and Family,

    It was barely two weeks ago when I saw you, Nora, and you were gushing about your girls. I don’t think I’ve ever seen you when you didn’t mention your daughters. You obviously have so much to be proud of. My deepest condolences to you and your family during this impossibly difficult time.

    Esther Walker

  137. Robin Kellogg says:

    Nora and Jay,

    I just heard of your loss. Please accept my condolences. For once I seem to be at a loss for words.

  138. Arlene Dorn says:

    I have known Mallory for many years and have watched her turn into this lovely young women. I have enjoying seeing and hearing all about her.

    Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss. I still can’t believe it.

    Jay you have been part of my support system and I want you to know that I am here for you (Nora & Meredith too.).


    P.S. Raj, Genie & Mike send their sympathies.

  139. Sara Hollander says:

    As a funny anecdote to the sadness…Mally knew I never got on with UCY (despite being way observant) so she was determined to get me to join BBYO. After weeks of needling me I finally agreed to go to an event. Go Karting. I never let her live down the horrors of this night because I got gravel in my contacts, crashed my car and broke my nose. But true to form Mally held my head in her lap while I cried and held ice to my very gross (and sore!) nose. Needless to say I was released from any further BBYO attendance pressures! :-D I teased her about it until we finished high school, every time she invited me somewhere I asked if my nose was safe. I think I’d smack myself now but at the time it seemed hilarious?

  140. Chris Rudy says:

    Dear Mallory,

    I know your parents; but I’m sorry I didn’t get a chance to know you.

    I would have liked to have known you, you just a kid.
    Your candle burned out long before your legend ever did.


  141. Melissa Loeffler says:

    Nora, My heart hurts for you, Jay and your family. I’m so saddened and shocked to hear about Mallory and I wish there was something I could say or do to ease your sorrow. Sending you lots of love and prayers. -Melissa

  142. Jason Shano says:

    Nora and Jay,
    We are so sorry to hear about Mallory. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
    The Shano Family

  143. Jackie says:

    No words can express the pain and sorrow that I feel for you and your family. I am so very saddened by the loss of your dear daughter, Mallory. If there is ANYTHING I can do to be of help to you, PLEASE let me know.

  144. Joseph & Dinah says:

    Dear Jay,
    I just am without words. I can not immagine what you’re going through. We are so sorry. Please let us know as soon as arrangements are made.
    Our deepest condolences.

    Joseph and Dinah

  145. Mallory's Dad says:

    To all of my dear MALLORYs East Coast FRIENDS and “FAMILY”

    My endless gratitude to all of you that made the memorial happen and for all that participated.

    Stay well and be healthy and happy knowing Mallory is watching over us.

    & forever in our hearts…

  146. “Say not in grief ‘she is no more’ but live in thankfulness that she was.” – Hebrew proverb

    I am thankful for those moments that I was able to spend with my cousin, Mallory, both here in California and when I recently visited New York with my girlfriend, Kim.

    The news of Mallory’s passing has been devastating to our family. My parents, sister and I have lost a dear niece and cousin and my Aunt Nora, Uncle Jay and cousin Meredith have lost an irreplaceable part of their heart.

    Mallory enriched all of our lives and I will always cherish my memories of her.


  147. Dear Nora, Jay and Meridith,

    Our hearts go out to you. There are no words to express how saddened we are to hear this tragic news. We know Malllory was a wonderful young lady and a bright star in your lives. Know we are thinking of you all.

    With deepest condolences.

    Always, Marc and Myra

  148. Mallory's Dad says:

    Hey, I see some new pictures on the “Picture Wall”

  149. Heather Dubin says:

    Dear Jay, Nora, & Meredith,

    The news of your loss was like a knife in my heart as I felt so horribly for you and your family. If I knew a magic phrase to ease your pain I’d certainly share it. Just know that so many are here for you, and as I’ve cried imagining this horrible nightmare, I only wish you the strength and love to help you arrive at a point of peace and joyous remembrance of such a cherished daughter.

    Words, however kind,
    can’t mend your heartache:
    but those who care and
    share your loss wish you
    comfort and peace of mind.

    May you find strength
    in the love of family
    and in the warm embrace
    of friends.

    Love, Heather

  150. Alan Snyder says:

    Thank you so much to all friends, family, co-workers, everybody for making last night’s memorial service so amazing.

    I’ve been reading this damm blog everyday and its been absolute torture, yet not surprising to hear such incredible stories about an amazing person. I don’t even know where to start so for I’m just going to put down my speech from last night…..

    Hi, my name is Alan. I’m Mallory’s boyfriend. I never thought I’d have to say anything like this or even know what to say. If I tried to tell you ONLY the highlights of my time with her, we’d still be here for days. And as Mallory would tell you, I talk…A LOT!!

    When I described Mallory to people. I’d say, ” She’s great!! She’s the girl version of me. Smart, beautiful, funny and a real smart ass”. And they’d say that’s exactly what I’d need.

    But as much as we were the same person, we were polar opposites. At least our taste buds were…

    Whenever ordering a bottle of wine, one of us would taste the pour, sniff, swig, pretend to know what we were doing and then decide if the other person would like it simply by stating the opposite of our own feelings. “Uggh that’s terrible, you’re going to love it”

    Visiting her once in Astoria, I stopped at Baskin-Robbins for myself but knew better to show up empty handed or else risk losing half of my own sundae. I had no clue what to get her, so I picked the two worst flavors I could think of, Butter Pecan and Pralines and cream. I handed her the ice cream and kept a poker face like I knew what I was doing. She LOVED it…and I loved her.

    Before meeting me, I’m not sure sure about Mallory’s sports knowledge. To be honest, I’m not sure if she knew the difference between a football and a basketball. But when I asked her if she would want to go to a baseball game, she got VERY excited and said “Yes, as long as there is popcorn and cotton candy”.

    Before I knew it, Mallory had learned all of the NFL quarterbacks, won her fantasy football league and even wore a team USA BASKETBALL jersey every Sunday during the FOOTBALL playoffs. It was the only sports jersey she had so I guess that was her logic. Each Sunday during the playoffs, I got more and more nervous and eventually she sat me down and said, “Babe, I’m wearing my jersey, they CANT lose.”…And they didn’t. The Ravens won the Superbowl and she proclaimed she’s the best thing that ever happened to Baltimore football, AND meant it.

    I don’t know about all that, but she was the best thing that ever happened to me.

    When people asked if she was the girl I was going to marry, all I could ever say is, “I hope so”. I felt so lucky to be with her. We’d spend countless days and nights together only to finally separate and have a lengthy discussion later that night on why it’s not weird that we already miss each other.

    A few quick quotes that always made me laugh…

    (Driving in a car)…”Turn off the radio, I’m mad at the Lumineers. They sucked at Governor’s ball. we’re in a fight”

    (Watching UFC)..”What weight class is this? the cutie pie division?

    (Shrimp cocktail for dinner)…”Just so you know this is my least favorite of seafood. (takes a bite)..SHIT!! Another expensive food that I really like”

    (At the gym, I asked her to come watch me”…”I don’t need to see the cake being made to know that I like the taste”

    (Yelling at a Sushi waiter)…”You need to turn some more lights on or give me a flash light, I’m not eating raw fish in the dark”

    (The maddest I’d ever seen her during the Game of Thrones Red Wedding)… “OH MY GOD!! OH MY GOD!! WHAT’S HAPPENING?? WHERE’S KHALEESI?!! WHERE’S KHALEEI?!!”

    Mallory, Moon of my Life, my best friend, my everything, I miss you so much. I miss your smile, your laugh, your corny jokes, even your 15 minute never ending clown joke.

    So i’ll finish with a story, something Mallory said was her lifelong dream to do.

    “I’ve always wanted to guest bar tend. And I’d work just long enough until the first masculine guy comes up and orders a vodka-cranberry. I’d go, would you like a tampon with that?? I’M OUT!!”

  151. Jenica McClure says:

    I met Mallory the first day we moved into the dorms at UCR. We immediately became friends and were inseparable the first few years of college. I can’t imagine having a more caring, loving a supportive friend to deal with the changes we faced starting our life as young adults. Her encouragement to rush a sorority, has made a huge impact on my life still today. From the time she tried to teach me what myspace was and how to use it, studying for our poli sci classes together, our short lived obsession to Madonna, and even a spring break trip to meet her family in LA and continue out to Bakersfield I will never forget what a dynamic and inspirational woman she was.

    Thank you for raising a woman that touched so many people. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you deal with this difficult time.

  152. Annapaula says:

    Nora and family, there are no words right now will make you feel better. Things happening in our life we can’t understand. God will comfort you and your family. Just believe she will be taking care of you always. I’m sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family.

  153. J. says:

    i attended the memorial service in NYC last night and as soon as i saw the photos of Mallory, tears welled up in my eyes and did not stop the entire evening. her friends and family were so moving, the prayers and thoughts of the rabbi beautiful, and Alan’s words were just so perfect. thank you all for putting this together, it really helps all of us who knew her.

    Mallory –
    i already miss you so much even though we hadn’t seen much of each other in the past couple of years. ever since Monday i’ve been wanting to text you or email or facebook and ask you what’s going on? what happened? where are you? i’m at a loss. and even though by knowing you, my life was certainly brightened, there’s something huge missing from it now. thank you for all the times we spent together and for being such a unique and wonderful and beautiful friend. i’ll continue to miss you, always.

  154. Joe and Katie Andrews says:

    Nora, Jay and Meredith.

    in this most difficult time may you find some solace in the expression of support from the community and friends. Katie and I send you all of our love. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

  155. Erin says:

    Mallory is an AXO sister of mine and very dear friend. So much of college was filled with memories of Mal and the influence she had on me. She was one of my best friends and also like the big sister I never had. She gave me tough love when I needed it, taught me so much and still continues to encourage me. She is amazing, accomplished, funny, confident, caring and just one of the best people I ever had the pleasure to meet and I could go on and on but you all already know this.

    To the Ross family and friends: I am so sorry for your loss. You are all in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time and always. Your daughter and sister was so fantastic and please be comforted a little by the fact that she was loved by so many and touched so many lives during her short time on this earth, as this website is testament to.

    Mallory: I miss you so much! Thank you for always knowing how to cheer me up and bring a smile to my face. I am so thankful that I ever met you and when you came up to me during a party sophomore year and said that we should hang more and that we actually did. I am always so amazed by you and will forever be grateful for our friendship and the time we had together.

  156. Bob Sperling says:

    Dear Nora, Jay, and Meredith,

    I wish there was something I could say or do that would make everything better. Even though I never met Mallory when I heard this news it made me feel terribly sad. I think of you (Jay&Nora) as my friends and even though there is nothing I can say right now that will make you feel better, please know if there is anything I can do I am here for you guys.

    I never met Mallory but after reading all of these comments, she sounded like an amazing person that I wish I had the oppurtunity to have met.

    Love, Bob Sperling

  157. Glen Kovacs says:

    Sending you Love and Light! Your family is in my prays…….

  158. Kathy and Frank Rappaport says:

    Dear Norah and Jay,

    We know the loss of your daughter will leave a hole in your hearts forever that can never be filled. All the love from your friends and family we hope will give you strength to endure. We are thinking of you and grieve with you.

    Love, Kathy and Frank Rappaport.

  159. Stephanie Corrales says:

    Jay & Nora,

    I only had the pleasure of speaking to Mallory on the phone during tax season but from the sound of her voice I could tell she was a warm & caring person. On behalf of everyone here at Fuhler, Baker & Co., CPAs, I convey our sincerest condolences; we are truly sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

    Sincerely, Stephanie Corrales

  160. Marsha Benaron says:


    Words never seem quite right at a time like this. Abraham Lincoln once said ” In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” So many have said such wonderful things about your daughter Mallory. She clearly lived up to Mr. Lincoln’s words. I can only hope that you find comfort in the kind words and kindnesses and that they help you, Jay and Meredith as you embark on this journey that you all now find yourselves on. Your in my thoughts.

    Lots of love,


  161. Mallory's Dad says:

    I understand that Mallory is on her way now to the West Coast…

    I have been waiting for this moment when the plane takes off for the past 30 or so hours.

  162. Dan & Kalo Franklin says:

    Dear Jay, Nora & Meredith,

    Mallory truly reflected the very best qualities of your loving and gracious family. No words can express the grief we all share at this time and no amount of time will ever take away from the joy and kindness that Mallory spread so effortlessly on a daily basis. Thank you for sharing her with us and please know that you are always in our prayers.

  163. Stuart Fried says:

    Nora and Jay,
    I never met your daughter, but her passing is so tragic and sad, and I cannot find words that have real meaning. As a parent, I know how special our children are to us, a treasure and a joy, and my heart breaks for you. I hope that your life with Mallory and your memories with her will stay with you, and I know that Mallory will remain alive in your hearts forever. My prayers are with you.

  164. Kurt & Judy Farmer says:

    If Tears Could Build A Stairway
    We Knew you for a Moment

    If tears could build a stairway, and thoughts a memory lane
    We’d walk right up to heaven, and bring you home again
    No Farewell words were spoken, No time to say good-bye
    You were gone before we knew it, And only God knows why.

    Our hearts’ still active in sadness, and secret tears still flow
    What it meant to lose you, no one can ever know.
    But now we know you want, for us to mourn no more
    But to remember all the happy times life still has in store.

    Since you’ll never be forgotten, We pledge to you today
    A hallowed place within our hearts, Is where you’ll always stay.

    God knows why, with chilling touch,
    Death gathers those we love so much,
    And what now seems so strange and dim,
    Will all be clear, when we meet Him.

    Our Thoughts and Prayers are with you

  165. Larry and Madelyn Gordon says:

    Please accept our deepest condolences. Our heart goes out to all of you.

  166. Katy Zanville says:

    To Meredith, Nora, Jay, and Alan,

    I went to Sherman Oaks CES with Mallory and Meredith and was lucky enough to get to know Mallory better when I moved to New York two and a half years ago. I would see her at outings with our mutual friend, Lauren Stern, and even sold her my bike when I moved from Brooklyn to Manhattan; it was the perfect alignment of someone needing something when another was trying to give it away. Mallory is a bright, funny, friendly, and sweet person to be around. We used to share dating stories (JDate, anyone?) and she would often come into Sprinkles Cupcakes for a sweet treat or a gift for her co-workers.

    It was touching to hear everyone’s stories about Mallory last night at the Memorial and I only hope that those stories are somewhat comforting in this difficult time.

    Meredith- we are all thinking of you and know that the bond between sisters is eternally unbreakable.

    Much love,

  167. Donna Whalen says:

    I cry for you, those who are Mallory’s ‘survivors’. I smile for her, as she is in a beautiful place.

  168. Bill Susel says:

    Everyone who has lost someone close shares your loss and understands your sadness.
    I guess if you live long enough, you share this feeling too many times.
    My condolences to the Ross family and friends.

  169. Bob, Angie and Kabir says:

    To Jay, Nora and Meredith,

    We are very sorry for the loss of your daughter. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May you find strength and peace.

    Bob, Angie & Kabir

  170. Mallory's Dad says:

    08-30-13 11:59 pm Mallory is home on the West Coast.

  171. Marcie Green says:


    Am so, so saddened to hear of your beautiful daughter’s passing. Thank you for sharing her video and all the words of friendship and love from so many countless friends and family on this site – I read through all of them. What an amazing and loving and giving person she apparently was.

    Will join you on Sunday to celebrate her life.

    Marcie Green

  172. Asher & Fran Levin says:

    Jay and Nora:

    We just read of your loss. We know no words to express our shock, our sympathy, our concern. Our thoughts are with you.

  173. Adina and Doron Aloni says:

    Jay, Nora and Meredith,
    We are shocked and deeply sorry to hear about Mallory’s passing. We only knew Mallory through Jay’s stories, full of pride, love, and admiration. I can see now that she was surrounded with love and Admiration by everyone who knew her… We are so sorry… Our deepest condolences to you and to all of your family.

  174. Erin Hicks says:

    Time will never stop for you
    As time continues to go.
    It’s your energy, your spirit,
    The sparkle in your eye
    Your laughter and your giving love
    For all of life
    That means
    You will be alive.

  175. It is 4:30 am and I just completed reading the tributes, stories, filled with happiness, saddness, laughs, poems about this beautiful daughter and sister you lost so suddenly. In times like this one realizes that every second of life is so precious. To live and know that you and your children make a contribution during our time on this planet is the greatest gift one can pass on….and that’s what Mallory did. I did not know Mallory, but do now…and know she will be missed by so many.

    Deborah and Jerry Newmark

  176. Natalie Borneo says:

    Its not easy to recognize the gift when its being given. Malllory Ross was a gift to the Dress For Success (DFS) Professional Women’s Group (PWG) Class #30 in New York. For 13 months Mallory learned what it ment to be a volunteer with the DFS Manhattan Branch and had the oppportunity to be a part of transforming the lives of 12 amazing women. PWG #30 met at my company Marsh & McLennnan once a month for sessions on work life balance, financial fitness, organizational skills, confidence building and motivation. As a member of the Marsh Mentoring team I had the opportunity to see Mallory shine as she offered the women guidance and suggestions often using her own experiences or challenges as an example. On the first day she proudly offered to assist with any legal concerns on a pro bono basis, she was beautiful, smart and quickly became one of the girls, one of the team. She even brought her little sister to one of the meetings because she wanted her to see what it was like.
    Mallory went after her purpose, found it, lived it and was clearly loved for it. Who knew that her joining us for the group’s Stepping Up Ceremony a month ago would be the last time most of us would see her. She reflected on her experience and shared words of encouragement with the honorees and guests (including Alan whom she was so proud to introduce). (We have a photo of the event that we’d like to share).
    Mallory may have been young in age but her thirst for purpose and conviction to make a difference has created a legacy some spend a lifetime trying to create.

    The Marsh (PWG) Mentoring Team

  177. Maxine says:

    Nora, Jay and Meredith,

    I am so sorry and devastated to have learned about Mallory’s passing. I know how close you all were and how very special she was. She was beautiful – both and inside and out. I can think of no words – she was a special person and I know she will be sorely missed.

    Keith and I extend our deepest sympathies and condolences.

  178. Bob Pouldar says:

    Dear Jay ,Nora and Meredith
    I am still in state of shock .I do not know how to express my sorrow and sadness.I am really sorry for your loss , my deepest
    condolences to you. You have been in my thoughts and prayers since i heard of your loss .If anything i can do please
    let me know .

  179. Steve Minie says:

    Nora and Jay,
    I am so truly saddened to hear of the passing of your daughter. Nora, it seems only weeks ago that you and I were sharing stories about raising two daughters, and it was so clear to me the love and pride you carry in your heart. Just trying to imagine what you are going through hurts. May God bless your entire family.

  180. Diane McCormick says:

    I met Mallory when my son DJ married Julie (Pollack). Mallory was a bridesmaid in the wedding. I had already met all the other bridesmaids, while they were in college, or in San Francisco. I was curious to know how there could be someone important to Julie that I had not yet met. When Julie introduced us, she said “This is my best friend, Mallory”. I understood right away. Best friends are made when we are growing up, figuring out who we are, and becoming the people we are going to be in this world. It didn’t matter that they attended different colleges or lived in different cities. They were best friends, and that will never change, even though Mallory has left this physical world. I’m glad I got to meet Mallory, what a nice young woman she was. I offer my sincere condolences to Mallory’s family. It’s difficult to know that my lovely daughter-in-law is hurting too. I can’t even imagine what you are feeling. I know you have wonderful memories and will celebrate Mallory’s life in remembering her.

  181. Alan Snyder says:

    To all that are interested. This is the music playlist that was compiled by friends and family for Mallory’s New York Memorial Service. (If you would like the actual music, I have it all)

    1) The Lumineers- Stubborn love
    2) Jimmy Eat World- Hear you me
    3) Of Monsters and Men- Mountain sound
    4) Death Cab for Cutie- I will follow you into the dark
    5) Sophie B Hawkins – As I lay me down
    6) Tim McGraw – Something like that
    7) Mumford and Sons- Lover of the light
    8) Icona Pop- I love it
    9) Gotye – Somebody that I used to know
    10) Counting Crows – A long December
    11)The Postal Service – Such great heights
    12) Florence and the Machine – Cosmic love
    13) Flo Rida- Wild Ones
    14) Ace of Base – The sign
    15) Iron and Wine – Each coming night
    16) The Avett Brothers- Ballad of love and hate
    17) The Get Up Kids- I’ll catch you
    18) Taylor Swift- Love story
    19) Leann Rhymes – Cant find the moonlight
    20) The Knocks- Dancing with the dj (acoustic)
    21)Sublime – Scarlet Begonias
    22) Ellie Goulding – Hanging On
    23) Passion Pit – Take a walk

    (and being the worst boyfriend ever, I forgot her most favorite song in the world.. MGMT- Electric feel)

  182. Gail Zeserman says:

    Dear Jay and family, I learned of your daughter’s passing this morning from my sister Deborah and I was deeply saddened by this. Please accept my sincerest condolences.

  183. Bruce and Hope Keswick says:

    Jay and Nora, we want to wish you our sincere Condolences. Although I never had the honor to meet her by everything I have heard she was a brilliant, funny and lovely person. My future daughter in law knew her from BBG and told me what a wonderful person she was. We will keep you in our hearts and prayers.

  184. It’s the little things, the small, everyday occurrences that you’ll remember. The laughs, the stories, the smiles. And even though it seems like you can never recover from your loss, it is these very memories that will help push the pain away and bring back the smiles.

    There’s a place in your heart where she will always be. And my heart goes out to you as you work your way through this very difficult time. How wonderful for you to see these many tributes to her, the many lives she touched.

  185. Sandi and Horace Heidt says:

    Sandi and I were devastated to hear about Mallory. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. It is amazing to us the outpouring of love and concern that has been extended to you and your family.

  186. Mark Johnsen says:

    When I heard about Mallory’s untimely passing, I was of course deeply shocked and saddened. I was aware of the grown woman and lawyer she had become, but my memories of her were as an enthusiastic member of the SOCES band program – and a member of our top group – the Wind Ensemble. She was adamant about being a flute player in the band even when her schedule was full of so many other activities (which she also excelled in).
    Music was so much a part of her life, that I was moved when I found out that her address as the Regional N’siah in her State of the Pacific Coast Region B’nai B’rith Girls, used the metaphor of all the components of an orchestra. I asked for and received a copy that I treasure today. One part that I particularly love, is this quote from that address: “The whole idea of BBG is that we all play different parts at different times. Sometimes we are the conductor; sometimes we are just an audience. But as musicians we read the music and take the audience somewhere they didn’t know existed.”
    Thank you Mallory for all the different roles you took on, in taking the different audiences that got to know you, to places we didn’t know existed.

  187. Erica Betnun says:

    “You may not hear me, but you will always feel me” – Elaine Betnun, May 12, 1997

  188. Dear Nora,

    Please accept our heartfelt sympathy at the loss of Mallory. She was such a part of our Dress for Success life, and she will be missed. We are deeply touched that the family is choosing to donate in her name to Dress for Success. This is so like her – as open and generous and giving as she was, and a reflection of her firm commitment to supporting women and her belief in every woman’s unlimited potential. The difference her presence made in the world, in her large community of friends, and in our work will resonate forever. She touched many lives in her volunteering at Dress for Success and in her commitment to the Professional Women’s group. Her wonderful support, generous advice and beautiful smile have brightened so many women’s lives, and we will remember her always for her beautiful spirit and warm presence.

    Thank you again for thinking of supporting Dress for Success in Mallory’s name. Below is the link to donate electronically: To donate on-line in Mallory’s name, click on Financial Donation, and then designate that the gift is in her name. You may also donate in her name by sending a check.

    Mallory was a very special person. We will think of her often, with pleasure and gratitude for the happiness she brought into so many lives.

    With sympathy,


    Amy Tashjian
    Director of Operations – East Coast

    1. Mallory's Dad says:

      East Coasters… you know where to bring clothing… and soon we will know about Los Angeles locations where we can make clothing donations…

      Information Updates Pending:

  189. Mallory

    No farewell words were spoken, no time to say goodbye, you were gone before we knew it, and only God knows why.
    My deepest sympathy to Nora, Jay ,Meredith and Susan.

  190. Mercy Alpert says:

    Dearest Nora and Jay,

    I wanted to share this Quote with you:

    Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy. ~
    Author Unknown

    May the love of Mallory shine down and light the world.

    Larry and I send our deepest sympathy for the loss of Mallory.

  191. Barry Glanell says:


    I never met Mallory, but knowing you, I am sure she was a joy and a pleasure. I will keep good thoughts for you and your family as you handle this trying time. From what I have read, I am sure Mallory is off somewhere still helping others. Only her physical presence is gone from us.

    My deepest condolences.

  192. Dearest Nora and Jay.

    You are in our prayers. May the Lord give you the health and faith to face what we could not understand.
    We will see you Sunday to celebrate her precious life.
    With our deepest sympathy.

  193. Molly and Tom Kelly says:

    Nora, Jay & Meredith –

    Losing a daughter and sister is the hardest emotion in the world which words cannot express. Please take comfort to know she is now in God’s loving arms and her memory and legacy will live on in her many tissue donors. Our prayers are with you, your families and all the people whose life she has touched.

    Love – Molly & Tom

  194. My dear Nora & family,

    I hadn’t met Mallory – but know her through her Mom’s joy, pride and love whenever she spoke of her beautiful and incredible daughter.

    What a gift of joy Mallory brought to her parents!

    My heart aches for your loss.
    My soul is grateful for the gift of Mallory to all who were blessed to have been touched by her life.
    My whole being prays that friends and family can provide the love, strength and faith to walk with you at this time and be a tangible sign of love and concern for you.





    1. admin says: To donate on-line in Mallory’s name, click on Financial Donation, and then designate that the gift is in her name. You may also donate in her name by sending a check.
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  196. Priscilla, Armando & Gilbert Q. says:

    Dear Jay, Nora & Meredith

    Please accept our deepest condolences…words are never ever enough. Loving and happy memories will take you through this.

    The Quemuels

  197. Larry Clough says:

    Dear Nora & Jay:

    I only met Mallory when you were a young couple and she was a toddler. I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like she grew into a fine person. My thoughts and prayers are with you.


  198. Renee Geta Krasnow says:

    Dear Nora, Jay & Meredith,

    May you always find comfort in your memories of Mallory. Amen!

  199. Marcie Green says:

    Jay –

    Am so, so saddened to hear of your daughter’s passing. Thank you for sharing all the words of friendship and love from so many countless friends and family on this site – I read through all of them. What an amazing and loving and giving person she apparently was.

    Will join you on Sunday to celebrate Mallory’s life.

    Marcie Green

  200. Evan Blank says:

    To The Ross Family:

    I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you, and I hope the memories that everyone shares of Mallory on this site will bring you some comfort in the days, weeks and months ahead.

    I knew Mallory back during the days of BBYO. We even served on the regional board together during our senior year in high school. I remember many wonderful things about Mallory: her smile, her confidence, her laughter, her sincerity, her honesty, her leadership and the great kindness she showed toward everyone (whether she knew them well or very little). Those types of qualities always leave lasting impressions on people….and Mallory certainly left those lasting impressions on me and everyone who knew her.

    I believe the last time I saw Mallory was ten years ago, at the BBYO-PCR convention (a year after we had graduated). We never did stay in contact after that, but I wish we had.

    I don’t know yet if I’ll be able to attend the funeral. But if I can’t, I’ll be sure to say Kaddish for her. G-d rest her soul.

    Mallory…you will never be forgotten and you will always be loved and cherished by everyone who knew you. Thank you for being a part of my life all those years ago. Those memories still mean a great deal to me to this day.

    Love Always,
    Evan Blank

  201. MaryLou German says:

    Dear Nora, Jay ad Meredith,

    Words can never take away the pain of a person’s loss but we can send our Love and Blessings and try to send our healing thoughts and prayers.
    I really did not know Mallory but so many people had that honor. She will live on In so many unknown people that she was able to help by being a donor. Thanks Mallory!!
    I have had the pleasure of spending some time with Meredith and seeing her beautiful smile and to know how special she is.
    This poem helped me through difficult times when I lost someone I dearly loved and cherished. I hope it will help you also.
    I’M FREE

    Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m free.
    I’m following the path God laid for me’
    I took his hand when I heard Him call
    I turned my back and left it all.
    I could not stay another day
    To laugh, to love, to work or play
    Tasks left undone must stay that way
    I found that peace at close of day.
    If my parting has left a void.
    Then fill it with remembered joy.
    A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss.
    Ah yes, these things I too will miss.
    Be not burdened with times of sorrow,
    I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
    My life’s been full, I’ve savored much
    Good friends, good times, a loved one’s touch.
    Perhaps my time seemed all too brief.
    Don’t lengthen it now with undue grief.
    Lift up your hearts and share with me
    God wanted me now: He set me free
    Love and Blessings

  202. Kim Sharoff says:

    Nora, Jay and Meredith,

    I am so very sorry for your loss. I did not know Mallory very well but from the time I did spend with her, it was easy to see her warm heart and kind spirit. Please accept my deepest condolences during this time.

    Kim (Matt’s girlfriend)

  203. Francine Stern says:

    Nora, Jay and Meredith,

    Mallory was such a life force! Mallory was beautiful inside and out, outspoken, confident, smart, sassy, strong, driven, warm, loving and an amazing sister, daughter and friend. We are blessed to have known and loved her. She left her mark on the world. She had such a strong and positive influence on so many. She always came over to see Lauren when they were both home from New York for the holidays. The last time I saw her she was looking fierce in some tight jeans and tall high heel boots. Her eyes and smile would always light up a room and her laughter was infectious.

    Nora, Jay and Meredith…..We are holding you up in love and light.

    1. anon says:

      Her eyes and smile would always light up a room and her laughter was infectious!

  204. Mitch Swersky says:

    I first met Mallory through BBYO when I was in SWR and she was in PCR. We later reconnected when we happened to be on the same UCDC program in college. My memories are of her upbeat, warm, bright personality. She always seemed to have that big smile on her face and she was just a lot of fun to be around. I’m so so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

  205. Dwayne Dunn says:

    Jay and Nora
    I am deeply saddened by this news she must have been a wonderful,beautiful,intelligent young woman with a great sense of giving,my heart goes out ! God bless you both and this young
    Woman she is beginning a new life!
    I do know what it is like to not here, hold or speak to my daughter for four years but can’t imagine the pain you must be feeling. Someday I will get the pleasure of meeting you Nora! Love you my friend Jay

  206. lawrenceherrera says:

    Jay,Nora and Meredith,
    my heart goes out to you all.My mother is deeply hurt by the news of Mallory. We thank you for you being there for us during our hard time in our loss, we now would like to extend our feelings and sorrow for this difficult time. We love you guys and we are here for you in any way.David Prieto and Sue send reguards along with Fran Duchamp. My sister, Monique Prieto and her family are here for you too!! Love you all.

  207. Lauren Pennisi says:

    Mr. & Mrs. Ross,

    My deepest condolences on the loss of Mallory. I am Geralyn’s childhood friend. I met Mallory when Geralyn first moved in with her in their Brooklyn apartment. Mallory was full of life and had an amazing spirit. She will be deeply missed.

    Lauren Pennisi

  208. Joanne Fine says:

    Dearest Nora & Family:

    I just heard the news yesterday about your daughter & I want you to know you ‘re all in my prayers! My deepest sympathy to you all & if you need anything Nora I am here for you! She is now an Angel looking down on us all! Love & Blessings, Joanne Fine

  209. karen frank says:

    Dear Nora and Jay,

    I wanted to extend my deepest sympathy for your both. Even no I never actually met Mallory ,I have heard many amazing things about her and want you to know that you will always be in my thoughts and prayers.If there is anything I can do please do not hesitate to contact me.
    Love, your cousin karen

  210. Kris Rogers says:

    Nora and Jay,
    I can’t even imagine the sorrow you are feeling. I have many memories of Mallory at CES. You and your family are in my thoughts and heart.

  211. Michelle Seukunian says:

    To the Ross Family
    I’m sending strength to you at this tragic time of mourning. After today’s service I can only wish I had know your precious daughter, the spectacular young woman she was!! Cherish the memories that are the gift of her life and I’ll pray that God will bless and keep you all.

  212. Bob and Jane Jacobi says:

    Nora and Jay and to all of Mallory’s family.
    Words are never easy when the life of a child is taken too soon. Please know that our hearts are what we offer to both of you. May God bless you both and keep Mallory close to Him.
    Bob and Jane jacobi

  213. Stuart Fried says:

    Dear Jay, Nora and Meredith,
    It was a beautiful celebration of Mallory’s life today. Although I never had the pleasure of meeting Mallory, I got to know about her today from all of you, your family and so many of her friends.

    It is tragic for her life to be cut so short, for someone with so much life and hope and promise, and yet, she touched so many many people in such meaningful ways. The rabbi put things a little into perspective when he compared her impact in 29 years to so many who haven’t lived as much in 80.

    You will absolutely miss her and feel her absence, and I hope that you can find some solace in the many special memories of your times together. In the coming weeks and months as you slowly heal, Mallory will be there with you in your hearts throughout, and forever.

  214. Carol Davis says:

    Very difficult day at Mallory Ross’s funeral. A seemingly healthy 29 year old woman with her whole life ahead of her should not have passed in her sleep. Mallory made a difference in Jamie’s life in middle school and high school at CES. I remember the sleep overs here and at Mallory’s. What a wonderful, bright young woman with her whole life ahead of her. Please hold on to your children, kiss them often and always say “I love you” at the end of every conversation. My heart goes out to Jay, Nora and Meridith Ross for the loss and deep sorry you are experiencing. I am so glad we got the opportunity to attend the celebration her life today. I am very sad and it’s a sadness that will stay with me for a long time to come. We should not lose our children before we pass. Sometimes God is cruel but maybe he has a higher purpose for dear, beautiful Mallory. Thank you, sweet Mallory for being such a dear friend to Jamie. You took care of her and guided her in school and made it more fun for her. You were a terrific young lady, only ten days older than Jamie. The Davis family will miss you forever. Our love to the Ross family.

  215. Bobbie Strelow says:

    Dearest Nora, Jay and Meredith
    John and I feel so honored to have been present at the Celebration of Mallory’s life. You shared so much with all of us, we were truly moved to tears and also joy. She brought so much love to everyone she touched. Now we all need to go forward and spread that love in her honor.
    God bless your family and a special blessing to Alan.
    Love you all,
    Bobbie & John

  216. David Shepstone says:

    I did know Mallory but I new her father and mother but after hearing about her life through her family, I feel that I knew the whole family for my whole life. It seems that she was a outgoing person who always was protecting the ones that needed protecting. I know that she is telling everyone see you in heaven.

  217. Dear Nora,

    Derek and I are heart broken to hear the sad new about the loss of your daughter. We never had a chance to meet her, but without knowing her personally, we know that she was very special and a beautiful young woman inside and out. We attended the funeral at Mount Sinai, but I wasn’t able to find seating and was standing outside in the heat. Unfortunately, we had to leave early since I’m currently nine months pregnant and started feeling weak. So we didn’t get a chance to personally hug you and your husband and tell you that our hearts go out to you and your family.
    Our deepest condolences to you and your husband!
    We love you. Please let us know if there’s anything you and your husband need in this difficult time.
    Jasmin & Derek Burton (Genie In A Bottle)

  218. Arthur Waltuch says:

    Dear Jay, Nora, and Meredith,

    You asked me Jay, to post some of my thoughts here so that in future years you would have a chance to recall another member of a group of people who have been in the sphere of your life and the life of your family that perhaps would provide solace for this abrupt and untimely severance. But it has been impossible for me to find the words up until now that would do justice to the pain, the anger, the emptiness, and the vacuum that I felt could never be filled- up until yesterday. What an amazing testament to her yesterday was! What a beautiful expression of the mark she left! I have never seen so many people at that chapel ( and I have seen some pillars of communities remembered there, sadly), as I saw yesterday. So many people (overflowing the chapel, draped around the front entrance around to the sides of the building, and filling the entire walkway right out to the street)! All had stopped whatever they had planned, perhaps for the whole summer, to do on this last vacation long weekend, before the summer’s end, just to make sacred their ovation to this young, frail, tough, beautiful jewel, who had been theirs to share for just a few moments, yet who had made so much difference in their very formation and molding, to be worth turning away from whatever their day was supposed to be in order to be at this chapel, at this moment, to honor her, and to say “thank you.”

    Now, thanks to the day that you organized to celebrate her life, I think I can offer some words of solace to you that I can feel are not beggared by the enormity of the loss you have sustained. But I have not found the words by myself. When you see the throng, the mass of people who came, you realize how important it was that she was here for 29 years, and how full a life she lived, and how she remains here inside the hearts of everyone who came to be there yesterday, and whose lives, whether they specifically recall her often or seldom, have been forever shaped by being touched by her, for the better. That then is the solace. There aren’t many whose lives mean this much to those they touch.

    One other thing occurred to me as I write this. I have been saying for perhaps as long as I have known you, my friend, perhaps since the first time I opened up one of the boxes you built for me when I got my first computer, that I could always tell a computer “built by Jay” simply by removing one screw and glancing inside the box. It was the way it was finished, the way it was clean, organized, wires wrapped just so, every component, every connection, just as it should be, where it should be, completely thought out, no shortcuts, no compromises, and therefore beautiful in its completeness. I look back at Mallory, and I could, after one glance, say, this is someone that my friend Jay built, easy to see her beauty, everything, especially her heart, just where it belongs.

    Much love to all of you, Nora, Meredith, Jay, as it took all of you to enable Mallory to call more than any chapel could hold, on such short notice, to say farewell. She lives as long as breath continues in every soul she touched.

    Art Waltuch

  219. Loi Soto says:

    Sorry I was physically unable to attend Mallory’s celebration. Vince tells me it was beautiful!
    I only knew Mallory through your eyes, Jay, but felt like I knew her personally.
    The pain of having a child precede you is the greatest pain we can experience. Memories stay with you forever!
    Your family will continue to be in my prayers. Loi

    1. Loi Soto says:


      Vince went alone he thought Mallory was an exceptional young lady. He got there in time to get a seat. I know the pain of having a child go before you. It gets a little easier as time goes by, but the memories are always there. God has our plan all laid out and He knows all the why’s. We trust Him and He knows best. Give our love to Nora and Meredith.

      Mallory would just say to you “it’s okay Daddy. I’m home safe.”

      Love and prayers,

  220. John Hunter says:

    Jay, Nora, and Meredith,
    Brett and I could not imagine a more fitting tribute to your lovely daughter and sister. It is our loss that we never had the opportunity to meet her. At the same time, we feel as if we knew her well. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Brett and John

  221. Vicki Temkin says:

    Yesterday, I was struck by how gently you placed the earth on Mallory. It’s clear that in death, as in life, Mallory knew and knows how much she is loved. You and Nora gave her the love and support she needed to become the amazingly productive, caring and loving young woman she became. Among the broken pieces of your hearts, you must be very proud of her.
    Take good care,
    Love, Vicki

    1. Mallory's Dad says:

      Thank you for noticing…

  222. CJ Larkin says:

    Dearest Nora , Jay and darling Meredith;
    The service for lovely Mallory was exquisite. I sat on the lawn outside the Chapel as did so many, as there was standing room only. What a testimony to this beautiful, selfless young woman. Although I was outdoors, I felt the incredible energy that was generated by all who spoke and remembered Mallory.
    I did not have the privilege of meeting and knowing Mallory. But, after the service and all the beautiful comments made about her, I felt like she had been a close friend as she had been to so many.
    I was truly touched by the comment that Alan made stating that she never said a bad word about anyone. And I thought to myself, if everyone lived their life like that, what a different world it would be.
    In life she made a difference for so many, many people, in death she touched the hearts and minds and souls of everyone.
    It is understandable that you are very proud of all she did in her life. We don’t understand why our loved ones are taken from us at such a young age, but perhaps it is for the simple reason I mentioned above. That her caring, love, compassion, straight forwardness, intelligence……all of it was to touch the lives of many and perhaps in so doing make our individual universes a better place.
    I know how deeply you will miss her. I will too for we are all one with the Divine and I can’t help but feel the missing.
    Don and I want you to know that we are with you and there for you anytime day or night if there is anything you need even a shoulder to cry on. Those tears are so precious. They are gems from your heart of hearts, don’t push them away but let them flow with a knowing they speak volumes of love for Mallory.
    For Meredith, you are a beautiful, strong woman, If there is a lesson in this for you and all of us; it is live everyday to the fullest. Let there be no regrets and express everything to everyone you love and never forget but always remember the love that Mallory shared with everyone.
    May it be so with all of you and all of us.
    With heartfelt love
    The Larkins

  223. CJ Larkin says:

    A post script:
    Because of who Mallory was, is a huge reflection on you, Nora and Jay, her parents.
    I felt these words from a very special song would soothe your hearts:
    “A light, a sound
    a peace of found in me because of you.
    A smile a song
    a love that’s strong in me because of you.
    There’s no other way, for me to say how much you mean to me
    but an open door and I love you more, I mean because of you.
    There’s no other way….for me to say how much you mean to me
    but the mystery and the truth I see….in me because of you.”

    Love and Light

  224. Shannon Cohen says:

    Mallory was a beautiful, confident and strong person. She acted with conviction and purpose and such a fun and happy spirit. I always looked up to her during our time together in D’vash BBG. I remember that during her state of the region when she was Regional N’siah she spoke with such humility, confidence and passion. There was no one like her and I feel lucky to have known her so many years ago. She was an inspiration to so many of us and I wish we had kept in touch. My heart and thoughts are with all of you during this difficult time.

    Shannon Cohen

  225. Lori Baker says:

    Dear Nora,

    It’s been a long time that we have spoken and Ellen just informed me about Mallory’s passing. Their are no words that can express how sorry I am for your families loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you.

    Lori Baker

  226. Joe Coukoulis says:

    Dear Jay,

    Hat’s off to you my friend, for raising such a wonderful soul. Although Mallory’s time here may have been brief, her positive impact on others continues to be huge. I am truly in awe by what I’ve read here. Human kindness at its best.

    Blessings of love be with you and your family.

  227. Stephanie & Steve says:

    Alan – Steve and Randi were telling us what a beautiful speech you made. I’m so glad you posted this so those who were not there have a chance to read it. Our hearts continue to go out to you.

  228. Tom Morley says:


    I can not imagine. I am truly without words. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

  229. Karen says:

    Hi Jay,

    I know it was a tough day for you and your family Sunday. But I also know that all of you were surrounded by loving, caring friends and family.

    Just so you know how many lives Mallory touched…I received a call from my niece Jessica Ramirez on Saturday telling me her a Mallory had been great friends for many years. I’m attaching a picture Jessica sent to me of Mallory and one of their other friends.

    I was then at my aunt and uncle’s anniversary party Saturday night and was talking with one of their old and dear friends, Jo. I told her what we had been going through with our girlfriend and she told me she was going to a memorial on Sunday…..for Mallory.

    It may be a small world, but Mallory touched lives beyond anyone’s wildest imagination across 3,000.

    We are planning Alison’s memorial and, well as you know, it sucks.

    I hope you and your family are doing ok.


  230. The Immediate Family says:

    We have seen the pictures. So many people beyond the capacity of the largest chapel. We felt your love. We want to take this moment and THANK YOU, EACH & EVERY ONE OF YOU for your support.

    We also wish to THANK the ENTIRE MOUNT SINAI STAFF their efforts to keep everyone comfortable on a very hot and humid day, the canopy, the water, the sound system, the video displays, Internet & Broadcast cam and the compassion for the family and the reverent care they showed our Mallory.

    L’Shana Tova

  231. Amy Tashjian says:

    To Mallory’s family and friends

    Please accept our heartfelt sympathy at the loss of Mallory. She was such a part of our Dress for Success life, and she will be missed. Mallory’s open and generous personality created a warmth in any room she entered. We could see that she was firmly committed to supporting women and believing in each woman’s unlimited potential. The difference her presence made in the world, in her large community of friends, and in our work will resonate forever. She touched many lives in her volunteering at Dress for Success and in her commitment to the Professional Women’s group. Her wonderful support, generous advice and beautiful smile have brightened so many women’s lives, and we will remember her always for her beautiful nature and warm presence.

    Mallory was a very special person, and she was truly a part of the work we do. She brought her sister and her boyfriend to events at Dress for Success, and we were happy that we were able to meet people important to her. I will always treasure the photos I have of her at the July 18th graduation cereomony of the most recent Professional Women’s Group she adopted. We will think of her often, with pleasure and gratitude for the happiness she brought into so many lives.

    With sympathy,

    Amy Tashjian
    Director of Operations East
    Dress for Success Worldwide

  232. Philip Imhoff says:

    What a beautiful life!

    29 years of blessings–my wish is for you to remember the best of Mallory for the next 29 and beyond.

  233. I have been asked several times – “who was that that sung The Rose and who played the guitar?”

    Don Larkin – Vocals
    Chris Rudy – Guitar

    Many thanks Don and Chris… a heartwarming tribute… just beautiful…

    I know both Don and Chris from Warner Center Business Professionals.. I do not know my WCBP family long … but I sure know them well.

  234. Ray Kelley says:

    Nora & Jay, I met you several times at Ken and Audrey’s house when I live in California. I served in Vietnam with Ken. I am deeply sorry for your loss.


    Ray Kelley

  235. Jenny says:

    To Mallory’s many loved ones, especially her parents and sister,

    I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve been thinking of Mallory often over this last week and a half and reflecting on how remarkable she was. As you well know, she was one of a kind. I used to love hanging out with her, whether it was at the book club we were in a while back, or a costume party or other gathering. Being around her was so much fun. She was magnetic – warm, funny, smart, adventurous, joyful, accomplished. I’ll remember her always.

    With love,

  236. Mallory's Dad says:

    I have been asked several times if the Memorial Service was recorded. Initially, I was not comfortable posting this information… if you are interested please do not hesitate to ask me for the password via email.

    Mallory Anne Memorial Webcast Logon Information

    You can access the Memorial Services webcast from Just go to the obituary listing and open Mallory’s obituary page. Under Photos and Videos, you will see the portal to the webcast. It will ask you for the password which is: send an email request for the password to

    Viewable for 90 days following the service.

  237. Shelli & Tim Miller says:

    Nora and family,
    We feel absolutely heartsick to read of your beloved daughter’s untimely passing. It is clear how very much she was loved and that she, like her mama, was a vibrant, joyful, treasured part of so many lives.
    Sending much love and prayers for strength and comfort. We are so very sorry.

  238. Diep Nguyen says:

    I went to law school with Mallory, and we were in a clinic together. Although this was a few years ago, Mallory had such a bright, joyful smile that will never be forgotten. When I met her, I knew that this was a person who was happy with her life. I am so sorry for her untimely passing, and I send my prayers to her loved ones.

  239. Bob Shattuck says:

    Jay, of your whole family and friends, I know only you, from the computer club we attend. I want to say thank you for your vulnerability and sharing this most painful event in your lives. I watched the entire celebration of Mallory’s life and, though I never knew her, I felt all did an excellent job of honoring her and painting a picture of her, that only those who knew her, so well, could. My tears and prayers are with you, friend, as you move forward, thankful for all 29 years you had with Mallory.

  240. Joyce Isenberg says:

    Jay and Nora,

    No words can adequately express the pain of the loss of a child. My heart breaks for you. I am truly sorry that prior obligations prevented me from attending Mallory’s memorial celebration. We don’t get to know the “why’s” of God’s plan, but we do know that part of His plan is that we’ll all be together again one day. Until then, I’ll be keeping you in my prayers.
    Love, Joyce

  241. Kirsten Staubli says:

    While walking Phoenix, I spoke with Meredith and heard the sorrowful news. I am so very sorry.

    From this page, I can almost hear the sound of Mallory’s laughter, feel her warmth and marvel at her wit.

    I would like to offer our sympathies and support,

    Kirsten, Peter and Camille

  242. Mark & Andrea Cohen says:

    Dear Nora,

    Andrea and I are just heartbroken for you! Mallory’s passing touched our children and their friends and their friend’s friends. Says something magical about her!

    all our love and sympathy,

    Mark and Andrea Cohen

  243. Mallory's Dad says:

    Whenever someone mentions Mallory it helps me know that she mattered to other people.

    I know she had made a place in this world for herself and she will not be forgotten.

    Mallory’s Dad

  244. Andy Fernandez says:

    I was shocked to hear this very sad news recently. Also knew Mallory these past couple of years through dodgeball and kickball. She definitely brought a lot of spunk and laughter to our group.

    God bless her family and loved ones,

  245. Kelly Sclafani Hill says:

    Jay and Nora,
    Since I heard of Mallory’s passing and especially since her services, I have been reflecting on the type of person she was. Mallory’s passing not only affected me as a friend (we were both AXO members at UCR), but also as the parent of my own little girl. I can’t begin to imagine the depth of your pain, but I wanted you to know what an amazing job you did as Mallory’s parents. She was a truly remarkable woman. She had an abundance of spirit, strength and conviction. I always wished I could be more like Mallory. I was awed by how comfortable she was in who she was and what she believed in, and I know that comes from how she was raised. It is my sincere hope that my daughter grows up to be the type of woman Mallory was. I will remember her always and think of her often. Thank you so much for the pleasure of knowing the truly wonderful person that was Mallory.

  246. Mallory's Dad says:

    Every second of every day; you are in the thoughts of everyone that knew you.

    And we are all a bit more awesome for having known you.

  247. Diane McCormick says:

    Here is a poem about God having a plan, even if it doesn’t make any sense to those still here.

    God Knows
    by Minnie Louise Haskins

    And I said to the man who stood at the gate of the year:
    “Give me a light that I may tread safely into the unknown.”
    And he replied:
    “Go out into the darkness and put your hand into the Hand of God. That shall be to you better than light and safer than a known way.”
    So I went forth, and finding the Hand of God, trod gladly into the night.
    And He led me towards the hills and the breaking of day in the lone East.
    So heart be still:
    What need our little life
    Our human life to know,
    If God hath comprehension?
    In all the dizzy strife
    Of things both high and low,
    God hideth His intention.
    God knows.
    His will is best.
    The stretch of years
    Which wind ahead,
    So dim to our imperfect vision,
    Are clear to God.
    Our fears are premature;
    In Him, all time hath full provision.
    Then rest:
    Until God moves to lift the veil
    From our impatient eyes,
    When, as the sweeter features
    Of Life’s stern face we hail,
    Fair beyond all surmise
    God’s thought around His creatures
    Our mind shall fill.

    1. Mallory's Dad says:

      This makes me smile…still.

      BLOG Entry: Tuesday, October 11, 2011

      Yoga Mat

      My mat. Usually it is a source of pride, a badge I wear to show the world I am going to or coming home from class. I carry this burdensome prop because I am a pro. Well a semi pro yogi. Lets be real, my mat only cost $11 at tj maxx.

      Today, this pesky prop, as I will now call it, embarrassed, no …absolutely mortified me. I brought it into a court room. I had to… I thought I had to. I mean where else could I leave it in a court house in nyc. A stranded yoga mat in the land of “see something, say something” the prospect of that was worse than carrying my burden into the court room. So I did, mid-trial… The court officer looked at me sideways, strolled over and said this, in what I think might have been a flirty/embarrassed for me kind of tone, “why is there a yoga mat in my courtroom?” To which I simply replied, well I am dropping this order to show cause off with the clerk before I head home today. he rolled his eyes and told me to take a seat and wait for the trial/hearing whatever it was to end before approaching.

      So after speaking to the clerk, I waited outside to see if I made it into the calendar for tomorrow… The officer came out again to ask who I was and why I had a yoga mat… Seriously, like lawyers can’t also have extracurricular lifestyle-altering goals. I should have taken the opportunity to explain my challenge. I explained myself and awaited the judges decision on the order.

      So anyway, on to practice. Tonight was day 4, I am now twice as far along as I was last week when I had to pause. and I have surpassed my previous best by twice as much. This was a physically challenging class for me. I don’t know if I was under- hydrated or hungry, but I was light headed and quick hearted in a way that I haven’t experienced in a very long time. The instructor seemed to pick up on this, or maybe she was having an equally wonky day, but she mentioned during class that today is a full moon day and that her practice today was also slightly unbalanced. By the time I got to floor series I had already sat out two postures and done the final standing pose totally half assed.

      I literally prayed my way through floor series. And cherished every savasanna like it was a full night’s sleep. I somehow made it through, almost threw up during camel, but made it through.

      On my way home now, feeling refreshed and actually kind of laughing to myself about my day. Heh, full moons… Like a were wolf, except instead of getting real hairy and eating people, I just terrorize court rooms. Oh, did I mention that I would like to one day be a judge, oh, well I do. I guess this story will be one I look back on and laugh at my inexperienced young lawyer self.


  248. Mallory's Dad says:

    “To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”

    Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882)
    American Essayist & Poet

  249. Mallory's Dad says:

    Six hours, six days, six weeks, six months – It is all the same because we miss you not being here.

    Thinking of you always and forever,

  250. Mallory's Dad says:

    Held in Our Arms for a Little While,
    Held in Our Hearts Forever.